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Sexual peak ?

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by Cwtch38, Mar 4, 2013.

  1. Cwtch38

    Cwtch38 Bat Shit Crazy

    Location:
    Uk
    Hellloooooo :)
    I was wondering how many ladies on here late thirties to early forties experience extreme horniness on a daily basis ? I've had a chat to a few mates of mine and they think it's my age ! Is this normal at 39 ? Am I normal ? I think of sex a lot, sometimes it feels like it's taking over all my thought processes throughout the day . I fantasise a lot :( . This is a newish thing and is getting worse. I have slept with 'the bar guy' since my separation from my husband last year but that shitty little relationship ended the beginning of December and nothing since. I have had offers but I struggle to let myself go to have a one night stand or just a fuck to release the tension. I'm going to explode :(
     
  2. Plan9

    Plan9 Rock 'n Roll

    Location:
    Earth
    Hmm, the cougar stereotype came from somewhere.
     
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  3. *Nikki*

    *Nikki* Slightly Tilted

    Location:
    Stateside
    I am 38, same issue. However I have always been this way :p so age is not a factor for me. Good thing I like girls and boys because I never had to go through a "dry spell" for sex. There was always one or the other around to help me out. Sex does occupy a lot of my daily thought and I have found that sometimes I like thinking about it happening more then I like the actual act at times.
     
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  4. Cwtch38

    Cwtch38 Bat Shit Crazy

    Location:
    Uk
    He he :) I'm more a pussy cat but it's starting to get me down. I need a connection with someone before I can relax enough to get naked and party but I don't want a relationship. I'm finally enjoying being single but need the release , toys help but only so much.
     
  5. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Women can be as sick & disgusting as men are.
    Why should raise our standards??? ;)

    Supposedly statistically men's "peak" of sexual desire is in their late teens and early twenties,
    and women are supposed to be in their 30's...

    But I think this is a bunch of crock, you feel what you feel when you feel it.
    Everyone is different.

    Enjoy the surge, it's a part of being human.
    I think people put too much onus on being "appropriate" or "what's normal"

    You're alive, that's all that counts.
     
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  6. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

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    My wife is 32 and im still waiting on her to reach her sexual peak.
     
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  7. fflowley

    fflowley Don't just do something, stand there!

    You hope.
     
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  8. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Location:
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    You are correct
     
  9. Cwtch38

    Cwtch38 Bat Shit Crazy

    Location:
    Uk
    I do t think I like reaching it while single :(
     
  10. curiousbear

    curiousbear Terse & Bizarre

    I am a guy, nearing 40, and I am on same boat!
    Coincidence I wanted to kind of confess it somewhere, thought of Tfp too... not that I am feeling guilty exactly, but my obsession makes me look several things sexually which otherwise would be very normal. And that bothers me.
     
  11. loquitur

    loquitur Getting Tilted

    I"m in my early 50s now and yes, I still think about sex all the time. The difference is that the body doesn't respond to the thoughts instantly anymore, which is a vast relief. In h.s. I was always in dread of having to stand up after class!
     
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  12. PlaysWithPixels

    PlaysWithPixels Getting Tilted

    I agree with this.

    I have felt less like sex lately, but I think that's because I'm not having it.


    I think a part of me is waiting for the connection or chemistry I've felt in the past. Once you know what it's like when it's "really great" - good enough just isn't going to cut it.
     
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  13. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    I am 36 and there are times that I'm just really horny every day, other times I'm somewhat indifferent for a while. If I'm getting it regularly, I tend to just want more. I think about sex constantly, I see wordplays, I tell dirty jokes, I watch porn, and I talk about it too. Maybe too much, like mixedmedia says in another thread. My sister says I would rather talk about it than do it. If I don't have it for a while, the horny feeling subsides some.
    I've been sexually active for over twenty years and what I have now is a different kind of horniness than when I was a teenager. Then everything was new and exciting. I was easy, boys thought I was "hot," and I played that for all it was worth. By the time I was married, divorced, and thirty I had a couple of fuckbuddies, but I didn't do one niters either.
    Now I have, at least it seems, a great relationship with a perfect guy, who's strong and assertive, but also trainable. He gives great head, remembers what I like, and doesn't ask for anal.;) Who could want more?
    Shit. I need to sit down and make a gratitude list.:rolleyes:

    Lindy
     
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  14. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Yes, I understand.
    And your own feelings change over time...or even moment to moment. And there's nothing bad about that.

    However, I will say this...again, it's different for everyone. Your emotional connection need fluxes too.
    Sometimes you want that all to end all be all.
    Sometimes you just want a fling or a fuck.

    And if this is not your thing, then that's cool. And if you change your mind, that's cool.
    There's no rules when it comes to sex. (other than No means No, that is...and BTW, if you say No when you mean Yes, then that's your bad)

    As they say, sometimes you're looking for Mr./Ms. Right...sometimes you're looking for Mr./Ms. Right-Now.
    Sometimes you just enjoy the Web... ;)
    Sometimes you just enjoy a good book instead.

    Anybody that tells you otherwise is not living in your body. What the fuck do they know??
    It is what it is.
    If you want otherwise in your head, but your body is not following...that's another story, but that's for you to figure out and followup on.

    Hell, even now...my libido is outrageous at times...but I don't want any involvement at the moment, I'm getting my own shit cleaned up.
    So I deal...and when I'm ready, I'm ready.
    And my desire fluxes up & down...perhaps this is because of my mind, perhaps this is because my body is different now, perhaps it's my situation.
    Who knows?

    The hard part is when you have a constant SO...and your desires are not in sync with theirs. (up to down or down to up, or just timing, etc, etc, etc)
    People get insulted...or they get resentful...and so on...
    Then you got to figure out, how do you satisfy both??
    Again, that's person by person...moment by moment. That's the dance we do.

    Mother Nature is wonderful and terrible at the same time.
    My attitude is just live, adjust, keep on truckin'
     
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  15. PlaysWithPixels

    PlaysWithPixels Getting Tilted

    Ever read a post or blog by someone that you don't know and just have a feeling you would really hit it off with them?


    I would say that's probably a pretty good description of why most of my relationships have ended in the past.

    And it's the games that I was getting tired of so I decided it was time to sit out for awhile. Not sure when/if I'll be ready to get back in.
     
  16. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Yep...and to be honest, I've actually have tried to hit it off with them.
    Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
    Just like dating. You never know. :confused::p:eek::oops::D:cool:
     
  17. MrMD069

    MrMD069 Very Tilted Donor

    Location:
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    My wife and I are in our 50's now and we're having sex more often than not. It might not be penetration sex but I've always loved to go down on her and she loves to go down on me, so, it's all good. She read something to me that the average couple has sex 58 times a year, bout once a week. I guess we've become abby-normal over time. I think we average 4-5 times a week. Also, the mrs. has become quite kinky in her latter years. ;) Not that I'm complaining. I'm loving it!
     
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  18. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

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    Still waiting...:(:(
     
  19. greywolf

    greywolf Slightly Tilted

    We're in our 50's, and my wife's interest in sex has taken a MAJOR upswing. It may be a pre-emptive strike to interfere with my on-going love affair with my bed, but I'm not sure.
     
  20. Cwtch38

    Cwtch38 Bat Shit Crazy

    Location:
    Uk
    I'm still constantly horny :/ my current guy is finding me a drain on his mojo . He doesn't say no yet ! But I can see he can't be bothered until we're in full swing of foreplay then he's fine. I'm getting more aware that I'm annoying him being so demanding :( I need to find someone with a sex drive that matches mine.
     
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