How do you feel about your body?

That's why the group sessions I go to are good - you make friends and it becomes as much a social outing as an exercise class. My wife goes too, but I'll happily go without her if she can't go for any reason.

 

^^^ listen to your husband

 

Rogue, why didn't you better listen to Snowy's husband?

 

well when I am looking at myself, I want to see what other people see. what do I look like? right? I am over weight for sure, just over 6' and it bounces around but about 240lbs. I lost my forehead now its a six or seven head, plus thinning hair all over. I am very happy in my skin and with myself, I do care what others think but maybe I shouldn't. most would say I am just average.

 

So my attempt at humor was an epic failure.....shocking .

 

It's off and on, with the like versus dislike.

I weigh what I did when I was at my lightest at 19. Still can't do a push-up, pull-up, or anything that would be considered "useful" at the gym. Too many squats make me light-headed (blood pressure issue??) and I start to black out.

Too many meaning like 12.

But my boyfriend loves my body. Even my little stomach pouch. And I can dance at the clubs most of the night, and that's top of my physical priorities when it comes to extracurriculars.

 

My body? I'm glad there's 40 pounds less of it than there was a year ago. I hope to lose another 20 pounds in the coming year.

Based on BMI, I overweight, but no longer technically obese. Actually, because of my relatively long spine and short legs, my BMI is inherently higher than a person of more average proportions, so those thresholds are unduly low when applied to me.

I am fortunate enough to be, even after some age-related shrinkage, six feet three inches tall. As a result, I have benefited from the tremendous suite of unearned privileges that society gives to tall men.

I'm not happy ab0ut the discovery, three months ago, that I have only one kidney. Apparently, I was born that way.

I am ambivalent about having Simian lines (single tranverse palmar crease) in both hands. This is usually evidence of some genetic disorder, such as Down's syndrome. On the other hand, former British PM Tony Blair also has hands like mine.

And since I ended up not having any biological offspring, it's really a non-issue.

Notwithstanding my congenital abnormalities, I am very grateful to have a brain that works well enough to give me an IQ about two standard deviations above the mean. That's less than most TFPers, of course, but good enough for everyday life.

 

it hate it. end of story.

 

Yeah, but you've got hands that can strip lugs nuts off a Buick without tools all the while navigating those hellish, only-for-Asian-children's-tiny-paws cramped spaces under the hoods of most modern vehicles.

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Please elaborate.

Whoa. I didn't even realize this was a thing. Now I'm going to spend the rest of the morning researching human hand shape. Gnarly.

Hah! Pfft, when you throw me in the mix and average it, TFPers are barely at room temperature.

 

I have nothing to complain about. I do have some level of body dysmorphic disorder though, and since I bicycle most places for transportation, I don't need to worry about my weight.

My teeth are the only thing that isn't right and hurt every few months until I see a dentist.

 

yes this part is true, I do have bear claws,but its the rest that sucks

 

Let's see, a brain that is prone electrical storms so my body flops on the ground like a fish out of water unless I take meds every day (and sometimes even then).
Have to take twice as much meds as most folks because I metabolize them so fast.
Body chemistry that makes me one step away from clinical depression (or there as the case may be).
Currently about fifty pounds overweight (legs of steel, belly of oatmeal).
Hands and knees shot to hell from years of working in kitchens, surgery on hands - not letting them near my knees.
Average hair color, average eye color, very near sighted but not blind, decent teeth,bad sinuses, not losing my hair, a few inches taller than average and a face that people remember but not for the best of reasons.

Not great but I'm used to it.
There are certainly things I'd like to fix but they would involve going back in time and having a serious talking to with my 25 year old self.
Things like not letting a sinus infection go for a month without getting it treated just because I didn't have medical insurance or not getting my hands checked when I couldn't feel them every night after work.

 

When I was about thirty we bought a home gym. It was a very basic Weider flexband system, but I worked out pretty seriously 4-5 times a week, and did some running. At 5'9" I carried 195 pounds very well. I'd like to get back to that, and have no excuse not to.

 

Tall man privilege is quite real. I have benefited in many ways from this unfair advantage.

Being tall means that people tend to assume you're a leader, that you're smart, that you're courageous.

When you're tall, what you say is automatically taken more seriously than it would be if you were short.

Being tall makes up for being shy. In a situation where a shy man might be fearful to speak, a tall man will be admired for having the self-control to hold his tongue.

People don't deliberately discriminate in favor of tall men. Very few people have any idea that they treat tall and short men differently based on their height.

For a man, statistically, being tall means you're more likely to be successful in your career. Chances are you'll make more money. On the average, you will be healthier and happier.

Generally, heterosexual women are more attracted to tall men than to short men.

Most tall men are, at most, dimly aware of the advantage they get from height. Many of them just assume they deserve it.

Short men know better.

One of the few downsides to being tall is that many short men automatically resent you.

Can't say that I blame them.

 

I'm 5'8"(ish). My dad is 6'4". Yeah, I noticed the difference.

People tend to think I'm taller than I am. I got that going for me. Yeah, sweet, they think I'm 5'9". Woot, average.

At 47 I'm used to being this height, and it's not so bad. Sure the ladies tend to like taller guys, but they also like good looking, strong, and smart guys too. I'm some of those things.

 

And there are many studies that support the Tall Men Advantages.

There some men, and we certainly can't leave out women, who exude confidence naturally. Those people can short, fat, ugly, too thin, or anything that people normally find "unacceptable," at least subconsciuously. My former best friend was tall, say 6 feet, muscular, handsome, and exuded confidence without saying a word. People automatically looked up to him, and many women found him irristable (he's the only guy I've ever known who could be broke, and I do mean nearly pennyless, and still get laid with little effort on his part).