Enablers & Bad Choices

Im discovering most people im around have issues that they need to deal with seriously and others are enabling them and when I try to be the positive one I'm now starting to be the "problem".

Our friends who im God parents to their kids and kinda parents to them. The mom is diabetic and people are putting sweets and junk in front of her alot. Ive been calling them out for it and saying those people need to be positive influence on her. She recently went to the doctor and they had to raise her diabetes med and she got a lecture about eating.

The same has been with my wife, i wont buy her sugary snacks and have been keeping her on a low carb diet. Her blood sugar has dropped from the 300s to around 100. She feels now that her sugar has dropped that she can eat like before... But she cant. I let her have a bad food now and then but she has VERY poor choices and this is how she got overweight and diabetic.

Theres other issues but its like I don't want to be a control person but people can't behave themselves and it just sucks.

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Having been married twice I can tell you that "keeping her on a low carb diet" (though that might not have been how you meant it to come across) is how marriage can get ugly.
Even when your partner is trying to lose weight and asked for help, forced control of her diet is not the answer.
This creates an uneven balance in the relationship that is unhealthy as fuck.
You won't be enabling her if you go together to pick out food, create a diet plan together, allow for personal preferences on both sides, and cook it together.

 

Thats the hard part.. Just trying to be positive and keep her on the right track has been like impossible. She has lost 80lbs and her blood sugar is good (but shes still considered diabetic) and shes able to do so much more now but she wants to go back to her old ways.

Ive been trying motivating her that we could do some counseling about things but she's 1000% against it.

She refuses to see how much better she is and how much she can do and even do things with her friends. She can wear and buy regular clothes and she looks great... But shes unhappy and wants junk.. She would rather eat hours a day and be happy that way. Which is why Ive been trying to get the counseling but shes very uncooperative.

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I'm thinking your a control freak that, just like everyone else whom is, you justify your behaviour by showing results. I read your posts twice, and believe your an Asshole. Your the problem, if you we're gone she would be happy.

 

Harsh, but there is a good chance this is accurate.