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Could my wife be hurting badly and keeping it-up inside?

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by soreNutSac, Aug 15, 2017.

  1. soreNutSac

    soreNutSac Vertical

    Location:
    Canada, Ottawa
    When i announced my wife last nigth i have been seeing a bdsm mistress for 9 months, 2 session, she seem to take it surprisingly well. Wen i told her i was planing to keep seeing the mistress she suddenly stopped talking (though she was very upset) but manages to fall a sleep and snoring in less than 20 minutes. It appeared as a good sign but i find it very weird.

    The more i think about that the more i'm starting to worry now. When she woke-up this morning i could see she was a bit upset but otherwise seemed pretty ok considering what i announced her. Same attitude when i got back from work and when she left for work (she work at night) and even remembered to bring with her the DVD's we borrowed. i totally forgot about them, last thing on my mind. Anyone think she could be hurting badly and keeping it-up inside?
     
  2. Wildmermaid

    Wildmermaid Very Tilted

    Location:
    Pacific Northwest
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  3. soreNutSac

    soreNutSac Vertical

    Location:
    Canada, Ottawa
    Thank you for your reply, really appreciated. I asked 3 times how she fealt. First one was last night, no answer and understand that one. This morning she said she was upset but could live with it. After work she said she simply said better. She seemed honet but not sure if she realy is and hiding her true fealing. But do you think these kinds of answers can come from some-one hiding deep pain?
     
  4. Wildmermaid

    Wildmermaid Very Tilted

    Location:
    Pacific Northwest
    Of course! Or from someone who has not decided how to handle your lies.
     
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  5. soreNutSac

    soreNutSac Vertical

    Location:
    Canada, Ottawa
    Sorry she just came back from work... b back
    --- Double Post Merged, Aug 16, 2017, Original Post Date: Aug 15, 2017 ---
    Think she is not as bad as i though. Yes i admit i'm an ass-hole and should have been honest before my first session. Would have been less pain for both of us. And if it was not for you and this site i probably would be spending my future sessions without my wife knowing. I learned a valuable lesson and i thank everyone here. Have a good night!
     
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  6. soreNutSac

    soreNutSac Vertical

    Location:
    Canada, Ottawa
    I over reacted way to much when i created this thread. I think the lack of sleep played tricks on me. If an administrator see this message and can delete this thread please go ahead.

    Very sorry everyone, hope i don't have an other mid-life crisis like that for a very longtime. Or at least, next time, its my wife's turn! :p
     
  7. Wildmermaid

    Wildmermaid Very Tilted

    Location:
    Pacific Northwest
    It seems to me you may have worked (or started working) on a very important part of self. You now acknowledge that you should communicate with your wife, and seem to have remorse from hiding your indiscretions from her. Those-at least from this perspective- look like healthy realizations. Sometimes what we need most to lift ourselves back up is to see just how far we've fallen. I think you're showing that you can with time see your wife as an equal in your relationship and be an equal yourself. :)
     
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  8. cynthetiq

    cynthetiq Administrator Staff Member Donor

    Location:
    New York City
    Why delete it? Someone can learn from your position and do it different in the future.

    But yes, communicate means discussing something, not just asking and a grunt of acknowledgement but actually talking and exchanging words and ideas. It's important and not just lipservice.
     
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