Sometimes appreciating yourself isn't enough. Me, for example, I know I'm very bright, capable of doing my job, probably an excellent asset for the company. But I'm making below entry-level pay, which is a great discrepancy from my "actual" worth assessed in any of a number of ways -- experience, productivity, contribution, dedication, wuddever. To get more money, I can't simply be self-appreciative. I have to figure out some kind of social skills that will make OTHERS appreciate me. Preferably, others who make salary decisions.
Same with chicks. It's always frustrated me, but the old cliche, "Don't care what other people think" won't get you laid. You HAVE TO care what the other person thinks, in some manner, if you want her to fuck you.
