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Originally Posted by Brooke
but we do - even if it is on the individual level. We define ourselves in realtion to everything.
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Yeah, but that (defining yourself in relation to other individuals) wasn't the question. That's completely different, and in fact what I was arguing for. I define myself very differently in relation to different men, and even to the same man in different situations. With ratbastid, we are partners. However, we have different roles. I'm analytic and organized so I do the bills and parcel out tasks. He's more emotionally stable than I am so he manages the "counseling" aspect of our relationship. My neighbor Lee knows a lot about cars, so in comparison to him I am less mechanically inclined. My neighbor Jon is really NOT mechanically inclined, so he often asks for help with handiwork stuff. Etc., etc.
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but the universe and the number 42 is not what I am out to tackle.
rather - rephrase....when a man and a woman have a relationship together - what are the proper boundaries according to society? society is different fromwhen my parents were young. outside of the individual - where would today's society see the ideal couple in realtion to eachother?
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Gotta say, who cares what the proper boundaries are according to society? It varies from society to society and from region to region within the same society, and from say, religion to religion in the same region. (Ask the Baptists and the Unitarians who have churches across the street a mile from my house and you will get two very different answers.) And society is not in my relationship with me - they don't know my skills, my talents, my husbands skills and talents. Any judgment about how "ideal" our relationship is would be arbitrary and meaningless.