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soma · 01-30-2005, 05:16 PM

UPDATE:

I promised an update so here it is. I've ventured into the rooms of other folks and did ok. The first time, I sat around and watched some folks casually playing video games. They welcomed me in and even offered me a sprite (nice folks I must say). It was semi awkward as I just sat there and didn't say anything, but I remembered what you all said about quiet being ok (so I ddin't freak out and get all nervous). Afterwards, I followed them to dinner, sat quietly and ate by them. Again, it was semi awkward, but I wasn't dying during my meal.

I swung by the same room another night (there was only one guy in there, and one on one conversation is much easier for me) and had a short chat with another guy playing halo 2. That went quite well.

Other than that, I tried keeping my door open. I was surprised by the results. One person asked if I could borrow a screw driver, another just wandered in and started talking to me, and a CA told me that candles weren't allowed in the dorms. A lot of action and I'd have to say I handled it all fairly well. (door question: is it acceptable to keep my door open when no one else has theirs open? I feel weird when I'm the only one in the hall with my door open. Should I just act a bit bolder and keep it open even if it is the only one open in the hall?)

^ Any specific suggestions on how to improve my social skills in the above social situations? Probably the one with the most need for improvement is the first one I described. Any advice/tips/suggestions would be great.

Thanks!

01-30-2005, 05:16 PM	#24 (permalink)
soma Addict Location: USA	UPDATE: I promised an update so here it is. I've ventured into the rooms of other folks and did ok. The first time, I sat around and watched some folks casually playing video games. They welcomed me in and even offered me a sprite (nice folks I must say). It was semi awkward as I just sat there and didn't say anything, but I remembered what you all said about quiet being ok (so I ddin't freak out and get all nervous). Afterwards, I followed them to dinner, sat quietly and ate by them. Again, it was semi awkward, but I wasn't dying during my meal. I swung by the same room another night (there was only one guy in there, and one on one conversation is much easier for me) and had a short chat with another guy playing halo 2. That went quite well. Other than that, I tried keeping my door open. I was surprised by the results. One person asked if I could borrow a screw driver, another just wandered in and started talking to me, and a CA told me that candles weren't allowed in the dorms. A lot of action and I'd have to say I handled it all fairly well. (door question: is it acceptable to keep my door open when no one else has theirs open? I feel weird when I'm the only one in the hall with my door open. Should I just act a bit bolder and keep it open even if it is the only one open in the hall?) ^ Any specific suggestions on how to improve my social skills in the above social situations? Probably the one with the most need for improvement is the first one I described. Any advice/tips/suggestions would be great. Thanks!