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1) Have you ever been cheated on (that you know of)?
2) If so, by how many different people (that you know of)?
3) Have you ever cheated?
4) If so (for #4), how many different people did you cheat on?
5) How many of these occured in a serious relationship?
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1. Yes. A few times, sadly.
2. 1 definitely; 4 + suspected with or without reason, no proof.
3. Yes. Are you sure you want to read the answers to #4 and #5??
4. Um, the last 5-6 relationships have been Cheat Free!
5. I cheated on every relationship I had until I was 19 years old - total: 9 - 12 +
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Originally Posted by thefictionweliv
People who cheat on their spouses rank right alongside those who beat their spouses.
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Thank you, Thefictionweliv, for that very ignorant statement. Do you actually try to think before you speak or have you always been happy to open your mouth and spray your share of ignorance everywhere? I happen to be a former cheater - who could still possibly cheat again in the future! - and I'm also the victim or "receiving party" in two abusive relationships.
I know that you didn't mean that those who cheat ARE abusive, however, some who cheat are not cheating to harm their SO and death isn't a concern with a cheating partner as it is with an abusive one. The feeling that a person gets when they see, or find out, that their SO has been unfaithful is a very horrible one (one I care NEVER to feel again) - I absolutely refuse to be in abusive one EVER again. There is a different...they are both horrible in their own catagory...some may say that they aren't even on the same level. I'm not here to argue this.
If I'm come across aggressively or annoyed, it's because I am. However, in a calmer manner, I will say that I do believe in Karma. When I was younger, I didn't think about things. It was easier to be blind to what I was doing to the "guy of the moment". I had long-term relationships but, over a time, grew bored with them or "opportunity knocked" during them, and in the end - I moved on with little thought about my actions. I was a hopeless romantic, addicted to total infatuation (butterflies, first kisses, first experiences), and was on a constant search for "Mr. Right" (i.e. the love of my life, my husband, my best match) and was fearful that I would miss him while I was in another relationship or that he would pass me by...and it got bad.
One time, I was with my boyfriend, cheating on him by dating another and having sex with a third - each guy didn't know about the other two. I was eventually honest with my boyfriend. Now that I think of it - Yuck. But back then, what the hell did I know?
I was young, narcissistic, naive and yes, selfish, even spoiled. Karma kicked my ass - believe me. I don't cheat anymore, and don't plan to ever again...I don't even wish it on my enemies.
However, SO's make mistakes - some realize and are truly sorry and worthy of forgiveness, and some aren't, continuously blind to what they are doing - remember we are only human.
Just because I've cheated A LOT before DOESN'T mean I will cheat again.