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Originally Posted by alicat
However, I have held my tongue for too long. Yes, I am "obese". Although I am quite overweight, I am not "grossly obese". Medically I would just be considered "morbidly" obese, although I carry my weight pretty well.
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Ali,
I feel for you. I have seen much of what you are mentioning here in the media and from freinds and co-workers. I was genuinly surprised that you mentioned it about the TFP.. but that could be cause I missed it entirely. and that is just as sad.
Here is my experience:
One day a Lady at work (who was sort of thin but had gained a bit of weight recently) told all fo her co-workers that she was tired of being ugly and she was going on a diet. At the moment that she said it I witnessed two of our heavier co-workers get up and leave. One was shaking her head and the other in tears. My freind had inappropriately expressed what was actually an innocent " I need to lose weight" comment.
Having looked around I can see that we have done the same here... comments like "Oooh look at that flat belly"... or "look at those long slender legs...mmmm" . What was meant as a word of admiration can actually be hurtful to someone who isn't like that. the pain is genuine
Let me say that I don;t like judgeing people for what they look like. when I read your posting I was moved to tears because I realised that we had made it harder for you to see the beautiful person that you are.
I hope you accept my humble apology
RCA