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ngdawg · 06-12-2005, 08:35 AM

I insist on NOT doing it all. There's more than one able-bodied person in this house. There is more than one in yours.
Without meaning to be harsh, you allow this to happen and are being taken advantage of.
My therapist once called me a perfectionist, much to my protests. Her explanation-I wanted things done to MY specifications and, in my eyes, perfectly. Since I couldn't handle it all, thinking no one else could, I shut down and did nothing instead.
You NEED to insist on help and if you don't get any-don't do it. An 8 year old can clean her room, carry her clothes to the washer and/or take her clean ones to her room.
A grown man and he doesn't even trim a bush??? Bet me...Hand him a brush, a hammer, whatever and tell him to get busy-you've had it doing it yourself.
And if he argues, your response SHOULD be, "fine-fork over the money and I'll hire a handyman".
Be assertive now before you sink lower or implode, please. Been there, done that and didn't get the tshirt...

06-12-2005, 08:35 AM	#4 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	They are taking advantage of you because you let them I insist on NOT doing it all. There's more than one able-bodied person in this house. There is more than one in yours. Without meaning to be harsh, you allow this to happen and are being taken advantage of. My therapist once called me a perfectionist, much to my protests. Her explanation-I wanted things done to MY specifications and, in my eyes, perfectly. Since I couldn't handle it all, thinking no one else could, I shut down and did nothing instead. You NEED to insist on help and if you don't get any-don't do it. An 8 year old can clean her room, carry her clothes to the washer and/or take her clean ones to her room. A grown man and he doesn't even trim a bush??? Bet me...Hand him a brush, a hammer, whatever and tell him to get busy-you've had it doing it yourself. And if he argues, your response SHOULD be, "fine-fork over the money and I'll hire a handyman". Be assertive now before you sink lower or implode, please. Been there, done that and didn't get the tshirt... __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.