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Originally Posted by Frosstbyte
It's always the business of your sexual partner. That's the only thing that makes me uncomfortable about people who are transsexual/transgendered. I understand that they feel that something is wrong with them and that they need to fix that, but that doesn't change that there are some ways in which that's not who they are and never can be.
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Let me first point out, in case it wasn't clear, that Jen is happily married and has no intention of keeping anything from sexual partners, as her only future sexual partner will likely be her wife. My comment about it being nobody's business applies to people who aren't family, such as casual aquaintences.
Sissy's casual friends and the other members of her clubs at school don't know and there's no need for them to. Nor do I think just any guy who hits on her or even every date. It isn't until the point of intimacy that I think she should tell, but that's entirely for
her protection. It's also for her protection that I think she should withhold this information until she reaches the point in a relationship where there is potential for it to become intimate.
Ultimately, it's her judgement to make.
Also, I agree that intimate partners should be notified of one's sexual history, if only to avoid becoming another Gwen Araujo. The men who murdered her are currently in their second trial, offering up the same defense of trans panic that resulted in a hung jury the first time through.
Gilda