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In my work I get hit on a lot, and consequently possessiveness / protectiveness is a big issue for me when deciding on whether to take things further with a guy. To me:
(NOT GOOD)
- a guy becomes possessive when I feel like he is checking on me all the time, what I'm doing, who I'm talking to, and I start to have to wonder how he'll react if I do something.
(GOOD)
- a guy is protective when he can sense when I feel in danger, unsafe, anxious, afraid etc, and knows what to do to reassure me that he's there for me and I'll be all right.
I guess the difference is:
- a protective guy looks out for me so that I do not feel threatened
- a possessive guy is really looking out for himself so he does not feel threatened
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