I have the same problem as you…
I am not sure of myself around girls I like (in other words lacking in confidence).
Around people I am shy and don’t say much, but if you persist and try to get to know me I’ll “warm up” to you and you’ll find I’m quite a funny guy. I’m also intensely loyal and nice.
I
used to show girls I liked them by showering them with gifts, but I realized that it only highlights my lack of “skills” and confidence, and earns you the wrong type of girls (i.e. gold diggers).
The girls that WERE girlfriend material always turned me down because I was… well I was a wuss.
Since then I’ve just “given up” on girls. Since then I have picked up weight lifting and am getting more attention from girls, but still have that lack of confidence. I’ll notice girls just
outright flirting with me, but I pretend I don’t see it.
Where has that gotten me? Ha ha, I’m too ashamed to say.
Right now I no longer shower girls I like with gifts, but I show that I really interested in them, which earns me that nice guy/friend label.
And that’s no good either.
*shrug* I need help lol