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Old 02-12-2007, 01:28 PM   #88 (permalink)
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Thanks for the PM, and for bowing out. I still feel I need to answer things that you said, however.
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Originally Posted by smooth
all I'm pointing out to you is if you appeared to be lucid and sober after a period of time then how is the guy supposed to know that you weren't short of running a barrage of tests on you?
I never disagreed with this point. My question is, why did you feel the need to point this out to me over and over again?

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Originally Posted by smooth
it's odd that I am answering in a way very similar to how your real life friends answer, and yet on here you noticed that a few people actually responded in a way that both surprised you and has given you some comfort. I didn't mean to take away from that comfort, but remember that the general consensus you're getting on this board was initially surprising to you.
No, sorry smooth, I'm afraid you're not answering at all like my real-life friends answered, because none of them chalked up my "guilt" to being 100%. Everyone agreed that both parties were responsible, though the guy was an asshole for taking advantage of the situation.

The reason I was surprised at some people's answers here was because they were putting the guilt 100% on the guy, which I (same as you) thought was unfair of them. I never budged on that stance, though it seems you perceived that I did budge on it. My only position all along has been that in a situation such as mine, two people were at fault; I was stupid, and he was an asshole. And when that happens (not in a case of pure innocence vs. guilt), both people have to take responsibility for their decisions... otherwise you get some useless, expensive, messy court situation that only makes things worse. I just don't understand why you disagreed with me, or how I "hid" any facts from the beginning.
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