Hey Shani, great post.
I was just posting over in the other "relationship" thread and realized I was doing the same thing... talking about how ktspktsp and I respect each other. I don't know if that's what most women consciously want, but hey, both he and I live by it and wouldn't have married each other without it, so it's key for our happiness as a couple. It sets the tone for pretty much everything for us.
And does respect get you a girlfriend/boyfriend? Well, if it's the right kind of person to be with, yeah I think it does. If it's someone you just want to fuck and be done with shortly, well respect doesn't really factor in so much. But I think the people worth being with are the ones who care as much about respect as their prospective partners.