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Old 04-05-2008, 03:07 PM   #30 (permalink)
Martian
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Originally Posted by jewels
This surprises me. I have never ever had a guy ask me that until we had established a relationship.
Establishing a relationship does not necessarily mean having sex, and getting an answer to a question (any question) has a lot to do with how you ask it. I've never had a problem with this type of discussion and, being somewhat forthright and as a consequence finding the most happiness with others who are the same way, I've found that in my past relationships the subject has often come up of it's own accord.



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Maybe hers are behind her as well?
This is why I stressed context. On the other hand, there are some things that I'm simply not comfortable with and I would be doing myself and the lady a disservice if I attempted to initiate and maintain a relationship in spite of that. One can't have a proper relationship with a person who they can't comfortably get involved with, after all.



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20's okay but 3o or 40 isn't? Wouldn't you really evaluate the situation, the girl and the relationship?
Context. This is precisely what I said. I haven't ever narrowed it down to one specific number, and I doubt there is one that applies to all situations because this is precisely what occurs.

If I'm honest, I've never actually had an issue with this; but then, I've also never dated a girl (or, more accurately, slept with a girl) who had 50 or more partners. I think that would make me uncomfortable enough that it wouldn't be a viable relationship option. These are my feelings and I apologize that they're not particularly rational; feelings rarely are, after all.
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