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Originally Posted by merleniau
Do people really take engagements and marriages lightly these days? For me they are a Very Big Deal.
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It's a Big Deal to me, but perhaps not in the same way that others see it. Reading your second post, merleniau, I feel we are in line with one another in regards to this.
My own parents had a very modest wedding, and I'm not particularly interested in the big affair. I've given this a lot of thought, as I'm either getting married a year from now or 2 years from now, depending on when my SO gets out of college. Ideally, I want to exchange vows at the rose garden in our town, and then have a low-key reception somewhere; there are a couple of picnic shelters in parks here that would be perfect. After all, it's meant to be a day that reflects us as a couple, and my SO certainly doesn't want a big crazy thing. We just want to get together with our friends and family to celebrate the commitment we've made.
And watching weddings on TV--yes, it does make me mushy inside. Of course, I cry at a lot of things.
And abaya, I ended up with the mutual agreement and no actual proposal. I haven't gotten a ring yet as a result. I'm still waiting, mostly because we're still talking about when to get married--he doesn't want to put the ring on my finger and have his family get all excited and up in our business. I can't blame him. We'd rather keep it low-key, and once his family knows, there's little chance of that.