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Old 09-09-2008, 08:12 AM   #14 (permalink)
snowy
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Originally Posted by jewels View Post
You're doing all the right things.

All you can do is know that you've raised her with strong values and trust that she'll do the right thing. If you're close, get her to talk with you about the date after so she'll know she can come to you about anything.
Yep, and get your wife to do the same. My parents were always my best confidantes (still are), and as a result, they pretty much always knew what was going on with me in high school. They trusted me to make good decisions, and for the most part, I did.

Just keep the lines of communication open, and try not to worry too much about it. Letting your daughter subtly know this is hard for you is not a bad move either; my dad always joked about greeting my first date with his rifle, and it let me know how much he cared. Strange, but true.

As for Jinn's statement above me: That's one of the main reasons my parents allowed me a lot of freedom as a teen--I had no set curfew and my parents allowed me to stay out all night for a couple things my senior year (like a rave in downtown Portland). They wanted to give me the chance to test my freedom with a safety net; I always knew I could call Mom and Dad if something bad happened.
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