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Old 12-14-2009, 11:05 PM   #13 (permalink)
Daniel_
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Originally Posted by Meditrina View Post
No, my marriage could not and did not survive an affair. But maybe each situation, each marriage, each person is different. I don't particularly think this is the thread to go into details about my situation. Basically, he lied to me for more than 10 years, until he finally met someone he felt was worth leaving me for. The trust in our relationship was totally blown away with no chance of ever coming back. How can a relationship survive that?
Bingo!

I can see that who you fuck is not the only sign of fidelity - there are some truly successful open and polygamous relationships that work very well (some of those people are here) but I have issues with being lied to in the course of it.

My ex wife is my ex wife because she wanted sex elsewhere and lied to me to get it. I have no idea if I could have coped with an open relationship (but I suspect that if put to the test I would come down on the side of NO) but I know I could not cope with a dishonest one.

If you need something you're not getting at home, the first thing you should do is explain it to your partner, and if you can't either get it or decide to do without it, you should leave your spouse before going to look for it.

I have a very simple rule; I will never cheat on my wife.
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