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Originally Posted by KellyC
But this isn't about that. Yes, I do have basic manners. Yes, I try my best to be polite and not offend any one. But there are other thoughtful things that people do that go beyond those things. Things that make people go, "wow, that's really nice of him." And stuff like that. Or maybe I'm trying too hard.
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These are two mutually different things - doing good things and acting classy. Often they go hand in hand, but even a hillybilly nimrod is capable of doing good and decent things. But the same guy couldn't act classy to save his life.
It sounds like you just want to be a decent human being, which I'm all for. That's just being polite, not offending anyone and making you help those in need whenever possible. There's not much more to it, regardless of culture. It's pretty simple, to be honest: always hold the door for others. Smilingly allow folks to cut in line ahead of you when you're all headed through the same door. Don't curse. Smile and wave at babies and little kids. If someone drops something, pick it up for them. Watch those Liberty Mutual commercials for other examples.
Now, if you're looking to adopt some Western "class", then I think you need to define the term better. Who exibits the traits you're after? What are those traits? Honestly, I think that once you answer those two questions, all you have to do adopt those and look for the next batch (because we're never complete). Cary Grant, Frank Sinatra and Bing Crosby (the public Bing, not the private one) set the standard back in the day, but you probably want to find someone more modern.