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In this situation, I think you're getting some good advice. Sounds like your best bet is to sever the relationship completely. At least for a year or two - until the wounds heal over and neither of you feel any need to 'possess' any part of the other.
But that's not necessarily a given at the end of every relationship. It depends on the nature of the break-up and the characteristics of the two people involved. I've known people who stayed friends without weirdness. Hell, I'm still friends with my first husband - always have been.
It's hard, though, I know. I've been through a break-up recently. And where there is a need for a 'continued platonic intimacy' there is a need to maintain possession and/or control over the other. It's not necessarily wrong - I think it's natural to some extent - but I don't think it's healthy.
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