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I just got done watching <i>Chasing Amy</i> again- I watch it all the time, I'm a big Kevin Smith fan- and reminded me of something I wanted to ask about here on the forum. In case you're not familiar with it, it's about a lesbian who falls for a guy.

In the movie, though, there is a scene in which they're discussing "how far" a girl goes with regard to sex, based on intimacy or just regular lust.

For lesbians and truly bisexual females:

Does the level of intimacy between you and the girl you're with decide what activities you engage in during sex? Example- if it's pure lust, and not love at all ("just sex"), are there things you find to be too intimate to do, and reserve them for someone you truly care about (love, or at least closer)?

I'd also like to hear from everyone else on this, too. Straight, gay, doesn't matter. Are there things that you, as a girl, will not do with a one-nighter (or equivalent) that you WILL do once you become closer to a person? I know many who will not give head to a guy until several dates in, or even more, and some will not let a guy do certain positions until they have become closer.

I'm not aware of anything like this for straight guys, although some guys say they will only go down on a girl after they've been together a while, but that's kinda silly considering that's one of the best ways to pleasure a girl.

Please give specific detail if you can, but don't give out anything you're uncomfortbale with.