i think that the most important in a girl is neither of the choices. fun! if a girl is fun, you will have a good life together that you will both enjoy and that will ultimately outway weather she is a super-model or super-genious.

It's both. You've got to be attracted to the person, of course. But there are many hot guys that I know, who I would never date. Their personalities (brains) make them completly unattractive to me.

The looks draw you in, their brains keep you interested.

i like what averett said... but that's not always the case.

I had a girlfriend a couple years ago whom I met at a JSA (junior statesmen of america) convention. We were playing hacky sack and she joined in. She had candida which is basically an allergy to sugar the symptoms of which was terrible acne... I can't say I was really attracted to her at first, I wasn't even considering her as a potential girlfriend... but as time went on and I got to know her, I started liking her quite a bit and got her number (first and last time I've done that, actually).

so really, first impressions do help... but for me they don't always set the tone for my interactions with other people. I always strive to see beyond the face, into the person within. In that case I'm glad I did.

Looks is the first thing that usually attracts you to somebody.

hmmm looks and brains go hand in hand for me too. you could be the hottest guy ever but if your personality is unnattractive, you will LOOK unnattractive to me. similarly, if i don't have an initial attraction to you but get to know you and find you to be a really good person i connect with, you become more attractive to me. my last boyfriend was a lot overweight and i swore i'd never go out with him when i first met him. :P then i got to know him.. and stopped noticing his weight and more and more his personality.

looks are important, but physical beauty fades and is a poor base for a relationship. I personally would not base any kind of relationship purely on looks or sex unless I intended it to be short term or a "hit and run".
Just my opinion - still a 26 year old virgin waiting for marriage, and never have had or felt compelled to get any kind of girlfriend so far. Would rather use something along the lines of courtship when I do find someone rather than the more recent and all-too-often morally absent system of "dating".

Both, but since I'm not that great looking I'd probably attract more brainy girls, not that I'd mind that. Stupid people bother me.

I can start with just looks, but all feelings die if she doesn't have the brains.

I'm still searching for the Brazillian rocket scientist.

Funny.. I personally would say brains, or at least wit, and personality. Trouble is, I cannot see your personality from across the room. Something has to attract you in the first place. As for me, I am not the best looking guy in the world, I am fat. (let's be real, I know what the heck I look like every morning when I get up.) I've been married more than 10 years, but still have little shortage of female friends, and fairly regular offers... why? Like I told my wife, regardless of what the initial reaction of a person is, wit, charm, and humour tend to be rather disarming. The good lord knows I've been with lovely ladies, and some rather large, and some less attractive than you'd find on the titty board, and it was all good. While I love to look at the nakedness of a "perfect" form, I love the intimacy with an intelligent, caring, human far far more.

Depends on if you want to find a Sugar Momma or be a Sugar Daddy.

Looks only lasts the first few seconds to me. A girl can become very beautiful in my eyes if she can talk intelligently. A girl who is hot and has an attitude or no intelligence just makes me lose attraction.

My wife has both; I get more enjoyment out of her brain.

i so agree with you.

Beauty fades, stupid is forever... :)

I'd vote neither... I'd much rather have a sense of humor - without that - there's nuttin'.

Holy old thread, Batman! soloist124 seems to have a knack for that today...


Anyway.. Brains. Mmm beautiful yummy brains.

Brains seems like a no-brainer...
 

...for a bunch of people who post to forums on a website that focuses on the "Evolution of Humanity, Sexuality and Philosophy." Not exactly a hangout for intellectual lightweights. (Okay, okay, some of you are lightweights...happy?)

The fact that we're all dazzlingly beautiful don' hurt neither!

That depends upon what you are interested in at that moment. Gratuitous sex or a relationship.

Considering the first thing I see is the looks, I have to put that first. I'll take the time to see if she has brains if I know I am attracted to her. Then again, I have screwed a few hot bimbos before.

Hard to love someone who is great looking but cant support an intelligent conversation with you. Hard to love someone who is the smartest person in the world but you cant even stare at her while you talk to her :(.

Id say brain is more important then beauty in a long term relationship and beauty is more important then brain in short term.

Couldn't agree with you more :thumbsup:

Lucky me....I married for both

Brains are the most vital aspect I could look for in a mate. Sure looks are important, but to me, they are just a bonus. What use would there be in a beautiful woman that just sat next to you and couldn't make any sort of intelligent conversation???

I couldn't handle that. I need mental stimulation.

my mother said this of me once..."You'd date quasimodo if he was smart"

and she's right Sense of humor is important too...but I usually find that someone has to be smart to have the kind of sense of humor I enjoy so it goes hand in hand

Dave has both looks and brains :)

okay i'll be honest. i'm attracted to cute hot girls. when that cute hot girl has brain's it's a bonus. how often does this happen? not much. i'd settle for avg girl who is highly smart though.

Both are important but brains wins out in the end

Both are important. If you're not attracted to the person, you might as well just be friends. Brains are more important though, because you can be friends regardless and you've gotta have something to go with when you get older and looks fade.

having been blessed with both i can easily confirm that good brains are the key to a good life. For example, 3 times out of ten i can pick up a lady with me looks. But 8 times out of ten i can pick her up with me wit. And what are good looks for besides picking up the ladies?, nothin, im telling tou, ive had way more success with the ladies when i am making her laugh, but i geuss good looks dont hurt.

If you mean intelligence, then good looks for sure. But if you mean good personality, then that's just as important. Just like everyone said though, I'd have to be attracted to the girl. That shouldn't be a problem though. Girls always seem more attractive when they're with you.

My wife and I didn't know what each other looked like until 5 months into our courtship, phone conversations, emails. I agree with firebirdta, it's no fun talking to a "flower vase".

my bro in law once told me.. if you cant find fault or something wrong with a person then they are fake... everyone has an outward flaw about them.

the looks heh thats surface. thats being shallow. (to a point) if you stick with that person the looks change .. not instantly but over the years. the brains ... that is more important.. would you spend the rest of your life with someone that just giggles or snorts at your conversations but looks great. or have a real conversation at hand at any point?

once you get to know someone that persons looks change i could see a knockout but after 10 min they could turn ugly to my eyes due to what i would term "surface empathy" that is where you get the gist of thier outward apperance (not just looks) by talking with them for 10 min.

granted guys and gals each have a way to disguise this. but the key is body language and posture.

bottom line for me..

looks.. no
brains.. yes

Brains ! That's for sure

But haven't you noticed that the REALLY smart people, the smart people who can socialise well at the same time, are usually both intellectual as well as good looking. This is not just a coincidence (that's just what I think). It seems likely that a blessed with "smart" genes would also be blessed with the "beauty genes" at the same time. So far the people whom I really find smart( not just intellectually but also emotionally, socially) are also really good looking....

Just a thought..

I'd rather just be with a person I get along with like a house on fire, regardless of intelligence or beauty.

My wife is not the sharpest knife in the drawer, but she's under no illusion that she is and is just the most fun person I've ever been with. I don't need to have intense intellectual conversations with her in order to love her and enjoy being with her. It helps that she's hot as well I guess.

What I really can't stand are women who are thick as pig-shit but think they should be chairing MENSA. That really turns me off.

Consider this: a person with brains knows that keeping in shape is crucial to a healthy existence, so they're more likely to have a hot bod.

Well I think it's a bit of a cocktail, some looks to draw your interest followed by brains to keep you interested.

It's also interesting because looks can also be a turn off. The hot-sexy look portrayed by the popular media appears to hard to me. If I met someone like that I'd feel there was too much facade to allow the person within to shine. I think there's probably a third attribtue besides looks and brains. Not sure how I'd describe it... "Soul" perhaps?

i voted brains simply from experiance...
almost every girl i've been attracted to, ALL my mates have agreed they are "dog-ugly" (not my words) ...
therefore i come to the conclucion that the brains must attract me!

Both.

I married a hot blonde with a 156 IQ: Win + Win

Having to pick, its got to be brains, as looks fade, and its hard to respect someone of inferior intelligence.

My answer is both... but that's not an option.
Like others said, it depends what I'm looking for. Right now I'm not looking for anything too serious, just someone to have fun with. I've found that goodlooking woman are typically more fun to be aound... must be a confidence thing.

So, on the risk of sounding shallow, if I have only those two choices, I'd choose looks.

Speaking of brains, you used the wrong "you're" there. Should be "your," hey, wait you used it once in the same case, but you did it differently the second time. Oh well.

It's not neccessarily being smart that matters to me, it's thinking for herself. Usually, smart comes with that, but not always. A straight A girl that knows a lot isn't as attractive to me as a girl with a C average that thinks about important issues for herself, no matter if the outcome of her thinking is the same as the general consensus or totally different, as long as she can explain herself it's a turn on to me.