I don`t think I can ever do it. I really don`t understand why some married couples do it ?

Newone, It is fine that you don't think you could ever do it. And Most everyone in the lifestyle will tell you straight out, if you don't think you can, then by all means, DON'T DO IT. Living a life this way isn't the same, just as to some people, living a poly lifestyle might not be the way. personally my wife and I are exclusive with each other, and we couldn't live in a poly life as nikkiana mentioned before your post appears to be in. There is no explanation needed for us. You don't have to understand us or why we do what we do....we simply ask that everyone respect us, and the way we live our lives. The lifestyle we live can't really be explained to be honest anyway. We do what we do because it makes us both happy, and we enjoy what we both get out of it.

Personally, for myself, it ain't happenin', but you all knock yerselves out.

I'm with ya, Fugly.

I have a hard time believing that the below-the-belt badger dance with multiple partners doesn't complicate the hell outta intimate relationships.

I haven't had a girlfriend / wife stable enough to watch pornography, let alone be in the same with another couple engaging in righteous snogging.

I figure it's all about comfort zone, maybe a little about maturity and confidence... but it definitely isn't something for everybody nor a "life goal."

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Ugh. I don't even have genitals, I've got a smoothspot like a Ken doll... and that makes me a little unpopular with the ladies.

How does a couple find a safe swing club or group of swinging couples or threesome minded individuals? Any good online resources that aren't out for money or just spambot spots?