yikes guys...
 

so i was wondering if any of you other guys who don't last too long in bed have any advice. i have never actually <i>had</i> sex before (shut up ok) but the longest it's lasted when i was paying attention was like three minutes, which isnt so bad i guess, but it's usually conciderably shorter than that... is it the same as the real deal or what

I'm kinda confused.

I think you mean you smack it a lot, and you don't last long, and so that's why you are worried. If so, have no fears. It's a lot different. When you masturbate, you know exactly how to do it and there is more friction and everything. Plus, your goal is just to get it over with.

No worries, you will be fine.

I haven't had sex yet either, but if what you say is true, emphant, then I'll last for days (well, ok, I'm exaggerating :p) on real sex. When I masturbate, it usually lasts about an hour.

Real sex is soooo different...and at the same time, so similar. It's unlike anything you imagined it to be, and at the same time it's kind of like whoa, not that big of a deal after all.

Of course from thereon you will want it even more than you did before, but that's okay. :D

On the lasting issue, that's not something to worry about. It'll work itself out, and even if you are the fastest gun in the west, it will change in time with experience and stuff.

Simple--wear a condom.

Most guys don't last long in their first time, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Just remember it's alot easier to get off when masturbating because you know exactly how to get off. If you are really that worried, when the time comes that you do get with a girl, you can wear a condom which desensitises you a bit, and make sure you do lots of foreplay first to make sure she gets enough pleasure from the act.

just give her oral after you have an orgasm.

seems to be the best way to make up for "not lasting long"

:)

Masturbate & blow your load before you have sex. You'll last longer later.

You masturbate for an hour? If thats true, prepare for wrist problems.

With a condom (having sex) I last from half an hour to three hours, or I dont orgasm at all.

Without a condom, I can reach O in two minutes if I really try.

With the hand, I can reach it in two or three minutes.

Its really dependant on how you do it. Sex can be intense or slow, and how you do it determines how it will last. If you want to last longer during the actual act, try changing positions a lot. As soon as you start getting into a rhythm, change positions to something else; you will last forever.

What?? A hour.... Man, i wouldnt even jack off if it took that long. You have to have big forearms.

Beating off will always make you blow alot quicker.

end of story :)

i can trip the weasel in a minute after initial erection, but that's if i want to. sex is totally different, so don't worry about it until you're doing it- and assume you're gonna suck for the first several times, so if it turns out you're mandingo, you are proud of yourself, and if not, you had no high expectations to get in your way. worrying about going too fast it is the #1 cause of it, because then you're all nervous.

No it won't. If you beat off and finish in 2 or 3 minutes when it comes to real sex it will be the same or even quicker.

Masturbation if done properly must be an experience.Take your time .It isn't just about finishing as fast as possible.If you program yourself that way,you will have alot of disappointed chicks saying. "that's ok,I don't mind." Bullshit they don't.

Being excited and overwhelmed by the act of sex makes some guys last minutes.Hell, some guys last seconds. Confidence,pacing yourself and enjoying the time for what it is goes alot further than the mindset of getting off.

Controlling ones orgasm has appeared in the forum before.Search out the advise and be a stud,not a dud.

Ehh...I don't think I would advise this.

You see, before I had sex, when I thought I had a chance to, I would do this. Lo and behold, I have a chance, but I couldn't get it up cause a) I was nervous and b) I had blown it not 3 or 4 hours earlier. Combined with my nerves, it didn't work.

That's pretty much the way I feel about it. If I can make it last as long as I can, the more enjoyment I get out of it.

Also, to the wrist problem comment. No sore/hurt/strained wrist here.

Trust me and do what I say children, you are about to blow - just get it out and go all smoochy, wipe it with your hand (to clean up any mess - although thats what condoms are for hehe) then just go back in, once you get comfortable again - you'll be fine, + YOU GET A SUPRISE.

I had a lover who used to come very quicky. BUT,, he stayed hard and as long as that happens dont worry so much about it...

:thumbsup: keep the stiffy and they'll be happy. It's all in your head, if you don't see your first orgasm as "ok i'm done now, *flaccid!* :o" You can keep going for much much longer :) And since you aren't worried about getting 'yours', you can relax and concentrate on her!

ps: arron... I can't even tell from your post what this thread is about... maybe you should work on being more concise, there's nothing to be ashamed of here.

Nothing wrong with being "a quick study" your first time out, as long as she knows to expect it and you're ready to "make up for it" later.

Know how long I lasted the first time I had sex? Two strokes. Probably less than three seconds.

That's right! I've won every contest on the subject I've ever been in. Quickest draw in the west! :D

And now, 14 years later, I have a loving (and very satisfied) wife who I can make love to for hours at a stretch. I regularly outlast her. So relax and let 'er rip. You'll get better as time goes on.

hahaha, my first time I lasted 40 minutes....

no, I'm serious.

I was so nervous about cumming early and pleasing her I didnt enjoy it myself. I was litterally sweating, it wasnt from the workout either, I was that nervous (this coming from an all-state wrestler and football team captain). The main thing I can tell you is to relax, I wish I had. Make sure she's 100% ready as well, DONT push anything faster than she is ready to go.

I spent so much time worrying about everything else that I didnt enjoy the time I had. Trust me though, with practice it becomes everything everyone says it is.

dont you have RSI yet!!

Wow, your time estimates match mine exactly. Except for with a condom I'd say half an hour to an hour, or not at all.

Hmm, I will try to change positions more. Good advice.

Another tip that works for me: If I'm under the influence of anything, I always last longer, or don't come at all. I'll keep this post legal and suggest a few shots of rum. See if that helps.

What?? I didnt realize "Not at all" was an option for a guy =P. Well, unless something goes drastically wrong atleast.

I do agree with the rest of the posters though, masturbation and sex are extremely different. On one hand, you dont have as much control over sex, so it will last longer for that reason. On the other hand, its *way* more intense so that can cause problems for some guys.

If you can think of masturbation, compared to anything like being inside a woman, getting involved in it, with another person.

Or your hand?

How excited are u going to get over your hand?

Sex isn't really as physical as you think it is compared to psychologic :)