pregnant or not...?
 

well here's wats happening... last month my gf was under major stress due to exams, n i dont heluva know wat her body did, but she got her periods for 3weeks! n now, she's 4 days late! is it due to the long lasting previous period, or is she pregnant? i havn't jerked off in her, but wif lil drippings gettin out, u never know :confused:

yea im freakin out, im 18yrs old :(

4 days late is nothing...

1. Relax
2. Go to Store.
3. Buy pregnancy test.
4. Have her take test.
5. Don't panic.

Responsible Adult Mode:
DO NOT have sex or have any kind of sexual activity unless you are protected. If you are old enough to be engaging in such activity, you are old enough to act responsibly.

I'm a tad confused.... have you had sex with her.. or do you just call it jerking off in her?


Just go to the store and get a Pregnancy Test... they aren't that expensive. 4 days is nothing.

i...cant...panic....ugh!
anybody had their periods for like 3 weeks?

ok i'l do that... yea well i was out of rubber :( i swear that as of 2d, no more unprotected sex!! even if i oready sweared that like 4 times...

yea had sex wid her b4... but i dont remember 'letting go' in her, even so, she's 4 days late :( so.... after how many days shud i start getting suicidal tendancies? :P

if you're going to have sex she should at least get on the pill or some other form of BC. I'm sure that periods can change due to stress ..but I don't have any umm... expertise in that area


and when is the last time you had sex with her??

/me smacks phatso upside the head... CALM DOWN!!!

Panicing will get you no where...

Is she on any kind of birth control - that can screw with a cycle and give spotting or a period for a few weeks, so can various conditions affecting women.

If she's had her period for three weeks, has she gone to a doctor about it, or even your local planned parenthood clinic(which i don't beleive tells the parents she was in)

A pregnancy test or a doctor is the only way to know for sure if she's pregnant/

a period can be 4 days, two weeks, 2 months late.. I'm imagining she's quite young.. the wind can change her cycle.

BUY A TEST!!! and CONDOMS!!!

5 days after your written english quiz....please PLEASE type in english, this is hard on these old eyes...

You'd remember 'letting go'. She's a teenager, presumptively. Girls get irregular. I strongly suggest that until you know your own bodies, you hold off on the 'letting go in her'...you have too much to learn, Grasshopper.

/me takes a deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep breath....

mmm nop no birth control, only got exams stress to blame it on... :(

okay imma do that 1st fing in da morning tomoro! n dont forget abt me in ur bedtime prayers guys :(

rite... i'l put dat on my to-do list too....

Don't have unprotected sex if you don't want babies... withdrawing before climax is not birth control.

As everyone here has said, don't panic. Four days is nothing. Get a test and take it. Then, if she's pregnant, you can freak out all you want. In the meantime you are just wasting energy.

again.. when is the last time you two had sex?

I'm sure this is just an irregular cycle.. I wouldn't freak out..

And no, Planned Parenthood does not tell your parents (or never did, anyway).

mmm yesterday?
dude, i'l love to b sure abt that too, hope it is...

wait..you don't even remember when you had sex with her last??

sounds like you need to grow up a bit more before you engage in sex that could drastically change lives

Shoot, it's hard on the young eyes. To the original poster: lease attempt to write your posts like an adult if you expect us to reply to you as adults. That said, your behavior towards this situation and your decision to have sex without protection does not show much maturity. In the future, always make sure to use protection. People SHOULD NOT HAVE SEX AT ALL if they are not prepared to deal with the consequences. Clearly, by your reaction to the possibility that your girl is four days late (which is really no big deal), you are not prepared to deal with the consequences. Think about that for a while.

Don't do the crime if you cannot do the time. In this case it's 18 years since that's how long you'd have to pay child support, or $X for the cost of a D&C abortion.

mmm yeah i know that was kind of childish... guess that would teach me... oh well, you reap what you sow, just wanted some advice... thx for helping out guys!

phatso - there is no limit to the number of characters you can type in your message. Feel free to use all the words you want and include all of their letters - after all, the words earned them!

As to your problem, it is more common than not for a female to have irregular menstrual cycles. Birth control pills will help regulate a period (after about 6 months of use and if taken properly), but even they don't make the menstrual cycle behave in the clockwork you seem to demand. Stress is a major contributing factor in delaying the "flow" era of the menstrual cycle. If you are behaving with her the way you are behaving here, I can assure you that she is feeling stress.

If you are truly 18, that makes you an adult. Ges itz tym to strt behavn lyk 1! :p

lol sorry well im just used to type quickly and voluntarily missing out the letters :P

well the only thing that was bothering me is that it's the 1st time it gets delayed, and i was wondering if her 'bleeding' (sorry for the crudeness) for 3 weeks the previous month was the cause.

and yes, i think that i should start growing up instead of only growing old :P

Women who are not on the pill (and therefore chemically scheduled) do not always have regualr periods (hence your GF having a period that lasted 3 weeks).

Get the test and stop worrying.

'bleeding' is what she was doing. That's not crudeness, that's a fact. Or more accurately, she was shedding the lining, etc. including blood.

So, what are the results of the test? You have had time to buy one for her right?

phatso,

If you get the test, it will most likely come back negative. I bet dollars to doughnuts that her period will start the day after she takes the test (because the stress is gone).

P.S. I had a girlfriend 1000 years ago that was the exact same way. We always used protection, but there were still some tense times due to irregularity.

gah, always always always always wrap it up. and if you really want protection have her go on the pill at the same time

pheww... test showed negative! but sil no sign of period *prays to the god of pms*

wait.. why would any guy pray that their girl got their period if the preg test was negative??

hey phatso, I have a simple question for you... In your years of schooling, were you ever subjected to biology or a health class - that perhaps discussed the female reproductive system. (I Went to Catholic School back i the dark ages and I learned about it - and we had boys i the class)

You seriously need to put your googling skills to work and educate yourself.

ok that's how it goes, the sperm can take about 6days to fertilize the eggs, so even if the test proves to be negative, it can be that it hasn't reached the egg. And the only way to make things clear is, as you guessed, the periods.

phatso.... follow this link kthanx

http://www.pregnancy-info.net/teenpreg_myth_fact.html

yeah done that, and you won't believe it's Joseph Swan who invented the light bulb, and not Thomas Edison.

thx... got some scary facts inside :S

well.. at least you're a little more informed..

k thx dude :thumbsup:

teenagers+sex="yea well i was out of rubber i swear that as of 2d, no more unprotected sex!! even if i oready sweared that like 4 times..."

good grief.

um, I would like to know if a woman is more fertile before or after her period?
or does it vary between people?


(thinks he may have fucked up...and yeah, even wearing a condom isn't foolproof due to slippage or breakage before anyone lumps me in)

It appears that maximum fertility is 7-10 days after her period.

Link

Be prepared for an in-depth discussion of things like "cervical mucus." :eek:

hope you learn your lesson dude

i hope you're not bringing a child into this world...
reading this post made my eyes bleed.

I'm trying very hard not to take the bat to the horse.. those legs stopped kicking a while ago. Anyway..

First off, to stop beating around the bush and be perfectly blunt, the fact that you didn't ejaculate during sex does not in any way mean that you could not have gotten her pregnant. pre-ejaculate contains sperm and may start to excrete within seconds of your getting an erection, depending on how excited and how predisposed you are. If you don't have a condom, don't have sex. Jerk each other off, 69, do what you have to do, but do not have sex. Bottom line.

Also, she should be on birth control in addition to you wearing a condom. Neither method is foolproof but with the two combined you will get as close to 100% protection as is possible. She can get a birth control prescription from your doctor without her parents knowing if you're concerned about them and may even be able to fill it depending on her pharmacy and insurance. Doctors and pharmacists both understand the issues at hand and would rather teens use protection without parental consent than have sex without it.

And finally, you need to do some serious soul searching. I have sex with my girlfriend because I'm prepared for the consequences. We know we're both clean and we're ready to deal with a baby if that eventuality comes to pass. It'll make life harder and it's definitely not the best option but we're prepared, because we've discussed it. It's unlikely but it is possible, so we acknowledge that and have figured out what we'll do. This is something everyone who has sex should do; if you're not able to deal with a kid, don't have intercourse. There are plenty of other ways to get each other off with little to no risk, so there's no reason to jump to that if you can't cope with what might come of it.

I didn't know this until recently, but standard STD screening doesn't check for herpes.
You have to specifically ask for an IGG type-specific test.

The current stats are 1 in 5 men and 1 in 4 women have hsv-2 (statistically genital herpes) and 90% of them do not know they have it.

I'm learning this in what is looking to be the hard way :(

smooth, that serves to illustrate my point really. My case is a bad example, as we've been together for a year now and neither of us had been active for about a year prior to that, which is why we can be reasonably sure that we're okay. I'm also as sure as I've ever been that this is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. If that's not the case, if the relationship hasn't been going on for very long or if you have any doubts at all, it's just not worth the risk.

I don't mean to turn this into a herpes thread, but the original direction from the OP sure wasn't really doing much for me, to be truthful...

anyway, I've been married for 5 years and before that was celibate for 4. Anything I have would be from 9 years ago...my wife was postively clean before she met me. Herpes can go unnoticed for years even with outbreaks and it can lurk for decades without the person even having a first episode.

Of course, you're right in that it doesn't much matter if you plan on being together forever since you would either need to go on daily suppressives and/or use condoms each session and that won't do for a monogamous couple! But the point is that you may or may not be clean as far as that particular STD goes, there really isn't any way to tell other than asking for a type specific test, and even then there are issues...length of time without a visible indicator doesn't work as a bill of OK. Even doctors have a difficult enough time diagnosing a full blown outbreak.

eh, I didn't mean to lecture you. I was just passing something along that I've recently had to learn a lot about.

smooth, you're not lecturing so no worries. I understand and appreciate what you're saying. If I'm going to be totally honest, I know that it's unwise for us not to be using condoms right now, but the reality of it is that it is, in our opinion, worth the risk.

Seriously, I appreciate the input. And even if it doesn't change how I do things (I'll be brutally honest and tell you it won't), it could help someone. Thank you.