A question of etiquette

So today at work I was in the bogs having a piss at the urinal.

A guy I know comes out of the cubicle, washes his hands, dries them, and then pats me on the shoulder as he walks out and says "hello mate" or whatever

In my opinion, this is close to outrageous

I think Its completely out of order to handle a man while he is in the physical act of urinating. What if he had caught me by surprise and I'd made a sudden move and pissed all over my own shoes? Or even worse right up the wall? Its not a situation where you comfortable with another mans hands on you.

I told him "you cant do that" after I'd finished up and was back on the floor, and he thought I was just being over sensitive and touchy.

 

I'm on your side on this one, SF. Isn't the potty (or urinal) a sanctified place?

Cyn, somehow that has me visualizing being seduced while on the toilet. Not sure if I'm diggin' that idea. Hang on a second, okay?

 

As long as it wasn't something like a firm ass grab, it's just a difference in the concept of appropriate personal space. I'd personally rather not be touched while relieving myself, but I guess that dude is okay with it. Maybe just turn around next time.

 

No way. He was so far out of line it's not even funny. There are rules and regulations for conduct in men's room.

exhibit a)

 

He was out of line. Touching should not occur while ones junk is exposed. In fact, I don't even like to talk while I am pissing.

 

Ice Burn ... great vid

Strange Famous ... hi. Yup I would not like that.
Given that he shares your workspace, then check whether there is a pattern of his taking up more than his 'proper space', then, if challenged, making it an issue of the other's 'sensitivity' rather than a valid questioning of his entitlement.

 

I one time had a guy walk into the bathroom while I was urinating and ask me if I work out.

"Yes," I said.

"Oh, man, what do you do? You have broad shoulders."

So I proceeded to have a conversation about my workout routine with a stranger in the men's bathroom.

The strange thing is, he wasn't hitting on me. It's the only reason I could really understand a man asking me about my shoulders while in the men's room.

*shrug*

 

Although I am not a frequenter of gentelems urinals (okay - except that one time), I should imagine one should keep a certain distance as you do when someone is using a cash machine. Of course, I understand some gentlemen see public lavatories as 'pulling grounds' - in fact, local policeman Pat once autographed a penis that was shoved through a glory hole at him in a seedy mens toilet he was covering on 'bog watch', so that he could be easily identified down at the station.....

 

I would be very unhappy if someone did that to me. There is rules! I had some guy who wanted to fight once and waited for me to finish pissing b4 confronting me.

 

Well, if I just piss on my shoes, at least I can go home and change

Imagine how embarassing it would be to have to go to the health and safety lady and tell her "I've had an accident... its about the wall in the Gents..."

 

He was way out of line. An acknowledging nod or the briefest of verbal interaction is pushing it, unless both parties are in the greater stages of intoxication...and that's still pushing it. Physical contact in the Men's room (unless it's that type of place, in which case, it's that type of place...) is completely against the unwritten laws of mainstream masculinity. That being said, calling it out in the washroom is on the same level of invoking Godwin's Law. It's a lose/lose situation.

 

If it's at work, post some rules on the urinal/stall wall and let folks have something to read while they go. If you're out in the wild, then all you can really do is shake your head and tell the story.

But seriously, keep the talk to a bare minimum and the touching should be nonexistent. Do your business and gtfo.

 

Invasion of personal space... but then again, I don't like to be touched by someone I don't know anyway (or anywhere)

 

"Hey, how are ya?" glancing & possibly turning slightly the other way might give Mr. Familiar the message. You come up with some interesting issues, Strange Famous. Are you still spouting gay jokes, 'round there?

 

I went to a men's choral presentation once and their was a whole lot of hugging in the men's room. It was a gay men's chorus. I was there watching a friend perform. I kept thinking, "Could you move the hugging outside please?"

 

He's a dick for thinking you're overly sensitive.... he invaded your personal space....