Exploring anal sex with the wife

I spoke to wife and told her I wanted to spice it up in the bedroom and try new kinky shit so I told her the first is to try fucking her in the ass. So I started to do research because I really want her to enjoy it I don't want it to be a bad experience for her. So after going thorough Wikipedia all I found was use lots of lube butt plugs etc etc. so I drove down to the village to pick up a few things. I bought her a vibrator lots of lubes water base ones and some sexy lingerie. When we got down to business I went through my normal routine u know lots of four play sucking on the clit giving her a rim job u know the whole yard I reached for the lube lubed her up pretty good and started to finger her in the well u know. I was able to only get one finger in there and only half way. Now I'm thinking to my self how the fuck am I going to get my cock in there. Any u women done anal can you guys give some tips or share with me your first time experience and did u guys enjoy it. I'm really trying to accomplish this feat. Sorry I advance if my gramma is horrible

 

She's gonna need to be really aroused. Just oral, likely, is not going to be enough.

I would suggest a couple of things.
A full-on romantic evening with time for more than one round.
Cocktails in moderation. Not falling down drunk, just enough to lighten the mood and relax the muscles.
Don't be all like, 'now I am going to do these things and then fuck you in the ass.'
Let it happen a little more organically.
It needs to be fun for her and relaxed - no pressure.

 

Just spit on and go!












1 word. Communication.

 

Like what mixedmedia said, she needs to be relaxed. If anal is the main goal of the experience, it may not happen for her. My rewarding anal experiences were because it organically happened. We had been playing around for awhile and I was plenty wet myself and didn't even need lube. It was a rather pleasant experience. Recently I told a partner that I may want to do it again. Although he's not really that interested, he wants to make me happy. After pondering your question I'm not going to push the issue and just see if it happens the next time we're together. He knows I'm open to it.

 

The times it worked best for us was when we just let it happen. I would help relax and loosen the area up by giving her a full body massage to start the evening paying special attention to her anal area. Then as things progressed slowly worked our way into it making sure to keep the area well lubed, usually with her own juices.

She needs to be into the experience so she can relax and open herself.

 

What mixedmedia said is right, although I think a couple of tokes before sex works more to relax than alcohol does, but that could just be me.

The other thing to understand is that you may well have to work up to this. You can't just lube her up, get in a finger, then another, then a butt plug, then swap it out for your dick. She's got to get used to things going into her ass, learn to relax, get her anal muscles accustomed to stretching, and so forth. You can't think of this as an evening's project. This is an overall agenda to work on for the next number of times you have sex-- like over a period of a couple of weeks, minimum. Be patient. If you can be patient and loving and make this a comfortable and un-stressful experience for her, it will open up a lot of interesting doors for her, sex-wise. But rushing things is not going to work in your favor, or in hers.

Personally, I think it's worth the wait. I love buttsex.

 

Thanks for the quick responses. And I definitely going to take mixedmedia's advice. Now I don't want to look like a jerk so I just want to clear up that she is on board and I'm not forcing it on her I didn't just decide this is what we re doing and u have no say in the manner. The concerns are mostly mine. I haven't scared her away from the idea yet so I guess I'm trying to find if I'm doing something or wrong or if there something she can do to make it easier for her. Maybe a position we can try that makes it easier for penetration. And we have started slow I'm not rushing day one was only Hal a finger how long should I keep it at that before we take the next step I wanna make sure she enjoying it and not tearing anything up in there

 

Or lindy u can go buy that same dildo and lube it up and shove it up ur ass and come back to this thread and let me know how u got it up there. Only came asking for tips not ur sarcasm

 

My Gawd, man.

All your posts read to me as if you live in this clip.



I'm guessing it took Baraka_Guru everything not to go into a grammar-nazi rage.

 

i don't want to be talking about butt fuckin' and no one's gramma in the same thread.
it ain't seemly.

 

I second this sentiment

 

I dunno, I've seen some pretty hot grandmas that I'd ass fuck.

 

but not your own grandma, I presume?

 

I have heard my grandmother threaten to shove something up someone's ass before. Lovely woman otherwise.

 

Naw, mine are dead.