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How comfortable are you???

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by ralphie250, Oct 21, 2013.

  1. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Location:
    At work..
    How comfortable are you with your sexuality?


    I personally am decently comfortable with my sexuality. When its just my wife and I. On the other hand i would feel better if i lost some weight and had a bigger dick. I try new things sometimes with her but normally I get real nervous so it dosent happen. I guess its a self conscious thing.

    I fuck with people at work like I'm gay but they all know I'm just fucking with them. I know I'm straight buy its fun to get people all rowled up sometimes.
     
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  2. Xerxes

    Xerxes Bulking.

    Super comfortable. I take the "fucking with people" to a whole nether level. It's come to the point my friends don't even know anymore. Sexuality is such a clumsily awkward topic amongst my circle of closeted homophobics it's hilarious to observe how uncomfortable they get.

    That really says more about me than the people I hang out with. Why do I hang out with them in the first place?
     
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  3. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member


    You know your dick will appear bigger if you lose weight, right?

    I'm extremely comfortable with myself as a sexual being. While it's a topic that might make others uncomfortable, it doesn't really make me uncomfortable. I'm not open with all aspects of my sexuality, though. I share a great deal more here than I do in the wider world for obvious reasons.
     
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  4. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Location:
    At work..
    I know.

    As do i
     
  5. mixedmedia

    mixedmedia ...

    Location:
    Florida
    I'm very comfortable with my sexuality.
    I am straight and I am submissive.

    Over time I have struggled with the submissiveness but I've come to realize that it might be because that tendency makes me psychologically vulnerable in long-term, committed relationships. And my choices in mates have been bad. Bad, bad, bad. But I have found that my submissiveness coalesces very, very well with uncommitted, sex-based relationships. It sounds ironic, but it's not. When I am in a committed relationship, I am trusting someone else with my vulnerabilities. With the sort of relationships I am having now, I entrust them only to myself. And, as a result, submerge more deeply into them than I ever was able to before. When I put my clothes on and walk out the door, I'm not leaving a part of me behind. And it always makes my heart leap a little when I do.

    I am sure that the damage I have sustained in the past is also a motivating factor in this new philosophy. But I'm not so certain that's a bad thing. Not everything you take away from bad relationships is bad for you. And there's nothing fundamentally wrong with wanting sex and not wanting to be tied down to a relationship. I've accepted that's the way I feel right now.
     
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  6. GeneticShift

    GeneticShift Show me your everything is okay face.

    I've fluctuated while growing up, but I'm very comfortable now.

    When I was younger, I had cute kid crushes on everyone, boys and girls. I thought that was just what happened to everyone, I didn't realize that not everyone felt that way. Coming to terms with that was very odd, especially for someone who went to Catholic school for 8 years. Throughout high school, I didn't necessarily hide that aspect of my personality, but I wasn't exactly forthcoming with it either. In college, it wasn't information that I volunteered, but if asked about it, I would answer honestly.

    Now that it's coming to the forefront of who I am, it's a little nerve-wracking to have to divulge to people in my life "yeah, I like girls too. Imagine that.", but I'm chugging along. I'm very comfortable with who I am, but I know not everyone else might be, which is what makes me nervous sometimes. And as someone who doesn't like sharing information about my personal life to the general public, it can get stressful.
     
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  7. Borla

    Borla Moderator Staff Member

    I'm very comfortable. I almost always can communicate it to my partner (wife) too. Though I'm usually willing to share if directly asked, I don't consider my sex life an open book for anyone outside of it to know the details of though. I probably share more here than anywhere else, and I really don't get too into detail here that often.
     
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  8. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Very comfortable.
    Straight as an arrow and a libido from hell. (and restraining that without being irresponsible or diving in with bad partners is always a challenge)

    No issues other than finding a sane & responsible person to share it. (And they are at the same intimacy level.)
    Until then, there is the web.

    And I have no fears about discussing it. (although I do not discuss it at work...and I make sure the audience is decent with handling info)

    However, I'm also very comfortable with others' shades of grey and flavors of sexuality.
    It's not my business and whatever floats your boat.
    Enjoy life.
     
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  9. DamnitAll

    DamnitAll Wait... what?

    Location:
    Central MD
    Here's a little long-winded story.

    I, too had crushes on girls and boys when I was young. I distinctly remember a very pronounced crush I had on a girl in nursery school, wherein I loved playing House with her and her other friends so I could be the family pet dog and she'd get to pet me. I didn't dwell on this too much at the time, wondering whether or not same-sex crushes were common amongst others I knew because before long I was swept up in another crush, this time on a boy—the most popular boy in our grade—that lasted another six years (regardless of my awareness or lack of awareness of my sexuality, I've always been a romantic at heart). Life and circumstance didn't give me much time to come to terms with my attraction to females going beyond innocent childhood crushes, because by the time I realized my high school best friend had fallen in love with me and I with her, the rumor mill in my small, conservative community had already kicked into high gear, and the assholes in my school were already singling us out with homophobic slurs, property defacement and eggs tossed out of car windows.

    In hindsight, I think this helped me come to accept my own sexuality not only more quickly but also more easily than it would if I'd only had to struggle with adversity from within. I don't even think it was that much more of a challenge to come to terms with my attraction to men and women, because both forms of attraction have always felt right to me, and thankfully I never felt the need to really question it.

    I was out, proud and obnoxious in high school, born of necessity for my own sense of security, with Chuck Taylors and a backpack emblazoned with painted-on rainbows, pink triangles and interlocking female symbols. I've toned all of that down considerably since then because I don't need it anymore. Shaving my head isn't about making some militant feminist lesbian statement. I like how it feels and how it looks, and it's cheaper to cut my own hair with a set of clippers at home than to take my chances on it getting butchered by going somewhere to get it cut. I'll always be a tomboy and will probably always prefer wearing men's tshirts and jeans—pockets in women's pants are bullshit—but I've started to explore and embrace my feminine side, and I like it! I think the only thing I've really been consistently uncomfortable with, aside from wearing flower-print turtlenecks with puffy sleeves when I was a kid, is being lumped into any sort of restrictive category based on what I consider a relatively minor facet of my identity. I've never wanted to be defined by whom I do or don't sleep with, and I've never wanted my social circles or interactions to be determined as such either. Going along with the idea that all of this shouldn't matter to everyone else as much as it does, I'd love to not ever have to feel nervous when I hold my girlfriend's hand in public and display affection publicly as obnoxiously as so many other (straight) couples do without any concern. Again, it's not about making a statement (except, maybe, when we very deliberately make out standing in front of Chik-fil-A). It's about spending time with someone I care about and showing her how much I enjoy her company. That's all.

    In terms of being comfortable with my sexuality in the context of expressing myself sexually with someone else, I am more comfortable than I've ever been in my life. And I love it.
     
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  10. the_jazz

    the_jazz Accused old lady puncher

    The guy that taught me that gay folks are not some scary "other" or anything other that people also taught me something else. "Jazz" he'd say, "knowing one of your friends is gay or straight only tells you the kind of asshole that you're have to deal with when they're dating and the exact stink of shit you have to help them clean up when that person breaks their heart." He was a pretty smart guy.

    I'm predominantly straight, although I very occasionally find myself mildly attracted to another guy. I've never acted on it since it tends to fall into the "idle curiosity" category, and I can't imagine that I ever would. So on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being completely homosexual, I'm probably a 2 or under.
     
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  11. MeltedMetalGlob

    MeltedMetalGlob Resident Loser Donor

    Location:
    Who cares, really?
    I'm very uncomfortable, mostly because I keep getting into awkward situations where I ignore the proper protocol, whatever that is. For example, sometimes I just gotta get on the dance floor and trip the light fantastic with whoever's out there!
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    But on a more serious level, dudes just don't turn me on. Never really have. However, for those that feel this viewpoint is a bit myopic, I will admit there are a few individuals out there who I could go for if I were so inclined...
    [​IMG]
     
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  12. Remixer

    Remixer Middle Eastern Doofus

    Location:
    Frankfurt, Germany
    I'm very comfortable with my sexuality and don't have any quabbles with my genitals.

    Much like Xerxes, my mates and I often used to do the gay play to weird each other out until punches are thrown. Not much lately anymore since Dubai people are too soft and it isn't worth the headache.

    Regarding my sex life: Ditto what Borla said.
     
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  13. omega

    omega Very Tilted

    I'm very comfortable with my sexuality now. Now that I have a girlfriend that loves sex as much as I do and is very understanding. Unlike my ex-wife who had no enthusiasm for sex. So I'm very comfortable with my girlfriend and I don't feel judged or looked down upon, just supported. Which is awesome. Because I am into some kinky shit sometimes.
     
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  14. evaderum

    evaderum Getting Tilted

    Location:
    California
    I'd say that I'm relatively comfortable with my sexuality and my genitals.

    Although I'm not the most comfortable with the fact that my sexuality isn't as developed as it likely should have been by now. Or perhaps better conveyed, not as 'refined' as I would have 'preferred' it to be by now. It's not strictly a matter of comfort with sexuality, but I tend to have difficulty connecting and trusting people on such a level. I was thinking last week that, colloquially, if I haven't let someone into my mind, it's probably rather unlikely that I'd let them into my pants. Which, having built such walls around myself, is a part of why I've not had any sort of relationship on any sexual/intimate level despite now being 29. I'm sure that will all largely pass though and be grown out of once I have the practical experience to provide a better perspective.
     
  15. Levite

    Levite Levitical Yet Funky

    Location:
    The Windy City
    Pretty damn comfortable. My friends know I like porn and get horny a lot, and we joke about it. I keep it out of my workplace because I'm a teacher and rabbi, and that really doesn't mix well with too much openness about one's own sexuality. Like Hugh Grant says in Four Weddings And A Funeral, "There's nothing more offputting than a priest with an enormous erection;" same holds for rabbis, I guess.

    I am open with my wife (and was open with my previous relationships before marriage) about my sex preferences, likes, dislikes, fantasies, etc., and was pretty open to trying anything that my partners wanted to try.

    I would have had no problem being gay, and I have a lot of gay and lesbian friends, and joke and say mock-flirty things with them and stuff: it just happens I have no physical interest in dudes. But all my friends, straight, lesbian, or gay like to tease me that I'm just a hairy lesbian with a dick. Which, to be fair, is probably true.

    My only real functioning inhibitions have to be with being naked around others, a little since I'm sensitive about my body because I'm overweight, but mostly because I wish my dick were bigger. Intellectually, I understand that there's nothing wrong with it, and Lord knows I haven't had any complaints from anyone I've slept with, but it's a hard thing for a guy to shake: it's something from our culture that imprints incredibly early and incredibly deep, that a guy needs to be hoisting gorilla tackle to feel comfortable about what he's got. In a way, it probably ended up working to my benefit, because I was so worried about my dick inadequacy that I studied female anatomy, read sex manuals and erotic stories and novels, and did years of mouth exercises, all aimed at gaining exceptional oral skills to really satisfy a woman. And while I guess I do okay with my unit, I am proud to say I can do things with my tongue that few other men can do, and I have not only never failed to please a woman orally, I have never failed to have a woman, after I went down on her, tell me that I had an amazing gift. So, you know, silver lining. But it doesn't entirely help with being naked, since people can see your dick, but you can't really walk around wearing a sign that says, "My tongue can make you orgasm like you just discovered you could come."
     
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  16. *Nikki*

    *Nikki* Slightly Tilted

    Location:
    Stateside
    Always have been and always will be the most comfortable part about me. I have more partners now then I have ever had in my life and each one fulfills a certain desire. I am happily bisexual.
     
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  17. tomcarey

    tomcarey New Member

    Im very comfortable with my sexuality. I have told most my girlfriends about my fetishes and even though some dont seam to be interested in some things, we just dont really participate in those aspects together.
     
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  18. Plan9

    Plan9 Rock 'n Roll

    Location:
    Earth
    I'm painfully hetero. Stereotypical and boring.

    Ladies on the left for make-outs, dudes on the right for high-fives.

    I'm happy with what I've got and not afraid to use it.

    All heterosexual males make bad gay jokes, regardless of PCness.
     
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  19. Poetry

    Poetry Totally Sharky, Complete

    Location:
    Los Angeles, CA
    Sex creeps me out. I just don't do it.
     
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  20. DamnitAll

    DamnitAll Wait... what?

    Location:
    Central MD
    I hear you're a real pro with that smooth spot. That's impressive.
     
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