QOTD #65: How do you deal with rejection?

I don't get rejected. I don't take risks and put myself in the position to be rejected in the first place, which probably isn't the best policy, but it isn't the worst either.

 

Same, nothing terribly interesting.

I'm male, I've asked one hell of a lot of women out that weren't interested. Obviously, I found one that was. I've also applied for one hell of a lot of jobs that I didn't get, yet I'm employed. Just suck it up, perhaps learn something, and move on.

 

I don't deal with it very well, normally the only time I ever get rejected is for sex, and that's 99% of the time. when I get rejected I tend to eat. that's how I deal with it and its wrong and I know it but that's how I deal with it. that and masturbation.

 

Rejection is just part of the process.

You need to put yourself out there (whatever that means to you) and part of putting yourself out there is the chance of rejection. Play things too safe and you will stagnate.

This can apply to dating. It can apply to your career. Anything.

I get rejected from time to time. I still sting over not getting cast in a role in University. I sting over a job I didn't get (though it turned out better that I didn't take the job).

Dealing with rejection is a matter of rolling with it. It's also a matter of not letting that thing be everything. Rejection in the face of desperation is disaster.

 

Don't have much experience with rejection. Married my high school sweetheart, that lasted 25 years. Few years after that I accidentally, by that I mean I wasn't looking for a LTR, I met my current better (way better) half.

Work wise I rarely applied for positions. Joined the military at 20. When I got out a friend offered me a job in law enforcement. Over the years I had different positions but always because they were offered to me. Hard to be rejected if you do not apply.

Maybe fear of rejection kept me from applying? Don't know. Know I never had any interest in management. Never thought there was enough money involved in it to listen to petty complaints and deal with the odd worthless employee.
I did accept a position once as an investigator for the county DA. He and I were target shooting buddies. One day he just offered me the job. I thought it sounded interesting and it was a healthy raise. Within months, maybe weeks it was clear to me I was way over my head. I felt in time I could have acquired the skills. Problems was we had some major cases on the table at the time and I didn't have time to learn on the job. Nor did I have a mentor, small county life. Within six months I was happily back at my original position.

 

Move on. Why waste the time and energy being upset. Their loss. Ok I kinda want to kick them in the shins.

 

My advice?

Aim higher; it gets your point across better.

 

I like to curl up in the fetal position alone in my room for hours on end. Possibly watch some My Little Pony.

But seriously, I tend to try and rationalize the interaction and figure out all the angles and why everything happened... Ideally, at least. If it turns out I feel like I made a particularly big ass of myself somehow by drastically misjudging the situation or something (I am kind of a social retard at times), I just try to forget it or surround the memory with mental scar tissue and move on. Or I lose myself in some all-consuming distraction until the memory just fades. So yeah, I realize maybe repression and/or escapism aren't the best answers, but I guess I work with the tools I've got, ya know?

 

Sending out my writing to publishers has given me a pretty tough skin and the ability to just dig in when I'm rejected to work harder.
Still, it's hard when you get back manuscripts with coffee rings on them or form letters that prove they haven't even been looked at.
The times when I was rejected for dates or in relationships I just moved on as well.
I get that I'm not the easiest person in the world to hang out with so no harm no foul.