very confused as to what is happening with me

So this is the first time that I have written on a forum of any caliber but the reality is I do not know what to think. I am a heterosexual male that has always enjoyed a bit of prostate stimulation. I got home from work this morning and had a glass of scotch. I work the night shift in an ER and it is always stressful so please do not think I am an alcoholic or anything. So I decided that I was going to play with a dildo but I ended up not touching myself at all while I was doing this. The end result was that I rode the dildo for an entire hour and did not cum. During this time I felt like I was close to cumming but did not. It was not until I stopped and began masturbating for about 5 seconds that it felt as though I began urinating. I know it was not because I had emptied myself beforehand. I was riding the dildo quite profusely and was on a completely different level; arousal wise. After that it was though I lost the ability to cum with maturation alone. It was quite disturbing due to the fact that II have always been very much in control of my orgasms. I had to ride the dildo again to orgasm; during which I was masturbating. My question to all you fine people is what just occurred to me? Since that time I attempted to masturbate by itself but cannot orgasm. Is there a point that someone crosses where anal stimulation is necessary?

 

What-what?!

Howdy. I'm Plan9. Welcome to the Tilted Forum Project. We're glad that you decided to share your question with us.

While I'm not an expert on this particular activity, I can say that--in general--if you're getting down with your bad self in a specific manner that involves a particularly intense technique you can expect to develop a certain level of tolerance to it. This tolerance will prevent you from experiencing the same level of pleasure with other activities. It's kinda like the scotch you mentioned: If you drink it every day, one glass isn't going to make you all warm 'n fuzzy on the inside anymore.

It's also kinda like how it's easy to get turned on by the women in the Land's End catalog when you're 14 but now you can only get it up to angry pregnant women smoking cigars and clamping their nipples with jumper cables.

That said, it isn't uncommon for a lot of people to need the right kind of mood, touch, environment to become fully aroused.

Whether you need to be crying, slapped in the face or can only jack it in public restrooms, you're okay.

 

People tend to develop habits and rituals when it comes down to sex and masturbation, men especially.
They start to think that's the only way they can get off and it becomes sort of a self fulfilling situation.

Break out of the conditioning and you might find you don't need the anal stimulation.
Get a fleshlight or throw in some porn.

 

If sex was driven by emotion men wouldn't have mistresses.

/suck it, apologists

 

And if men could suck it themselves, they wouldn't need mistresses.

 

You know how I know you're married? You fantasize about sucking your own dick instead of having a woman do it.

/suck it, apologists

 

Have you ever received a blowjob? They're fantastic. It's totally impossible to replicate that sensation by yourself. Even with a severed head.

 

Hey, you can stick a flag in bullshit feelings mountain all you want, I'm trying to get back to the part where old boy is confused about having to dump the clutch on his backside just to crush a snack pack. Sounds way dangerous.

 

Oh, abstinence. Heh. Does that actually work for anybody? I once tried it for two weeks on a business trip. I was super busy and thus could maintain proper discipline. The only issue was that by the end of like day 11 or 12 I was so jittery that when the two weeks was up I was worse off than when I started. It's like quitting smoking or something else equally challenging and totally unnecessary. Except the cigarettes are your balls.

 

I'd say he should try for at least a month.
Maybe cut back a bit on the booze too.
Try running or biking to take up the pressure.

 

Relevant on so many levels...

 

Yeah, just give it a few days. Things will return to status quo. You got way overstimulated. Your body is probably tired. And don't stress over it.

 

An hour? That's pretty intense, no wonder your body got confused.

Stay away from the prostate stimulation (PS) and masturbating (DIY) for several days, then try DIY with no PS. If you can't cum, repeat but add a couple of days of abstinance.

Intense PS can lead to weakened ejaculation and/or a more liquid semen (but not always). Combined they can create a dribbling urinating sensation when ejaculating. Another possibility with PS is the pleasure can be intense, but the erection will be weak (but not always).