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Old 07-13-2010, 01:55 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Dead people in your phone book

I was just going through my phone book looking for a contact only to realize that I have at least 4 people I know who passed on and are still in my phone book.

I don't know why I don't or can't delete them from my phone book or cell phone.

Do you have any dead people in your phone book or on your speed dial?
I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not.
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Old 07-13-2010, 02:02 PM   #2 (permalink)
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No, I haven't had this happen to me.

However, this reminds me of the opening to the film Amélie, starting at 0:43 in particular:
Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing?
—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön

Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
—From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot
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Old 07-13-2010, 02:25 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Old 07-13-2010, 02:46 PM   #4 (permalink)
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none in my "phone book" but quite a few from my HS graduating class, and i'm not THAT old...

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Old 07-13-2010, 03:02 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I still have not removed my father from my cell phone's contact list.
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Old 07-13-2010, 03:07 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I would have to call all of them to find out if they are still alive, and I don't want to do that. So, I'm not sure.
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Old 07-13-2010, 03:26 PM   #7 (permalink)
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yes, I can't even think about deleting my grandmother, it was bad enough having to put her death date in my genealogy program along with a transcript of her obit...I just can't delete her off my phone... and she's been gone two years
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Old 07-13-2010, 03:38 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Yes. Several patients. And one of them travelled from one phone to the next after he died.
I couldn't delete it.
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Old 07-13-2010, 03:57 PM   #9 (permalink)
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no phone numbers but I do have a few email addresses that will remain forever
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Old 07-13-2010, 04:05 PM   #10 (permalink)
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yes, I can't even think about deleting my grandmother, it was bad enough having to put her death date in my genealogy program along with a transcript of her obit...I just can't delete her off my phone... and she's been gone two years
I was the same way when my grandma passed away. I couldn't bring myself to delete her from my phone list. It wasn't until I destroyed that phone and had to get a new one that she left my contacts list.

Right now, I don't think I have anyone.
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Old 07-13-2010, 05:15 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Not only did I keep my father's number when he passed, I regularly called his office just to shake up the energy in the room. I was hoping that that he had accidentally taken a wrong turn and was just lost somewhere.
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Old 07-13-2010, 05:16 PM   #12 (permalink)
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I just checked. No dead people on my contact list in my phone, but there are a couple of dead people's names in my old fashioned address book that's about 25 years old....lol
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Old 07-13-2010, 05:35 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Hello Cyn.

When you said phone book, my luddite bent, pictured ink & pencil in an address book.

Three months after I transcribed most of my peoples numbers into
a new, paper, ring-bound address book, five of my friends and relatives died.

I drew R.I.P beside some. I drew headstones with colorful sayings around others.

These small memorials have been a not forgetting honoring.
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Old 07-13-2010, 07:21 PM   #14 (permalink)
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No, not in my phone.

However, I have a friend whose name will never be removed from my AIM contact list. He committed suicide towards the end of my sophomore year in our residence hall, in his dorm room, a dorm room I'd hung out in many, many times. My best friend hasn't taken his name off of her AIM list either. I don't think we ever will.
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Old 07-13-2010, 08:30 PM   #15 (permalink)
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My girlfriend is still there. I leave it as an inspiration, as she taught me more about student motivation than anyone I've ever known.
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Old 07-14-2010, 08:24 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Not necessarily in my phone book, but on IM/Facebook/email, certainly. I still have my brother's account on my AIM, which I never use any more except to go look at his name
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Old 07-14-2010, 08:56 AM   #17 (permalink)
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I have people that are "dead" to me in my phone still, just so i don't get surprised one night if they call again.

As for having someone not of this world anymore in my phone? No, no one off the top of my head.
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Old 07-14-2010, 09:29 AM   #18 (permalink)
In my computer address book, a few older relatives and family friends where one of a couple has died. From back in the days when a family would share one phone. Still useable.
I also still keep a physical address book (paper steno-pad type book) with names, businesses, services, hotels, restaurants, etc. on routes I regularly drive. When on the road it's much easier to use than on line.

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Old 07-14-2010, 10:49 AM   #19 (permalink)
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The last time I checked my contacts, everyone was still alive, however I stopped communicating with two people on the list, so I might just delete them.
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Old 07-14-2010, 11:54 AM   #20 (permalink)
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As soon as I know they're dead (funeral, usually) I delete them from my phone.

I guess I just see it as a few bits in flash memory, even simpler a few electrical signals in some silicon. Nothing particularly sentimental, and not like I'll ever call them. I suppose if it were a sudden death and I could still hear their voice mail I might keep it for a while just for the novelty of hearing their recorded voice postmortem.

I suppose I've never been particularly sentimental about death..
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