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Wayngo · 05-27-2004, 05:38 AM

Ive seen how crazy some people are and I dont think I can trully trust anyone except my parents.

And maybe my dog

Jackebear · 05-27-2004, 06:01 AM

Wow, I am the same as most here...trusting only a few and distrusting most. Kinda sucks really. I used to watch my Dad in the old days where a handshake got a deal done and his word was his bond. Then the 80"s came, I grew up and got burned a few times but not too badly so I went into the 90's wearing my trust out in the open...and $50,000 later (gone) only trust my parents, siblings, wife and 5 friends. I hate what I've become but I had to start being an asshole just to keep my heart and mind safe.

Shit.

gondath · 05-28-2004, 03:31 AM

For me, it's a question of what I can trust each person with. I never put myself in a position to get screwed over. Certain situations would result in more to lose than gain by selling me out for whatever reason. That's when I know I can trust a person

Blackthorn · 05-28-2004, 01:45 PM

What the original post calls trust is really a description of integrity. If you ask someone to honor their word by keeping a secret and they reveal it I would argue that the person who broke the promise has no integrity.

You trust a person of integrity. A person demonstrates a lack of integrity by breaking their promise to keep a secret. This creates mistrust or an expectation of future broken promises. The future expectation of a broken promise still means that you trust the person. It's just that now your trust is in the person to break a future promise vs. keep it.

It's a subtle difference but it's there.

ngdawg · 05-28-2004, 08:42 PM

There are a multitude of levels of trust. I trust my dear friends with my life, but only one with any secret or problem I may have. Many know some aspects of my life I have shared with them but this one person knows it all and will never betray it-not sure I can say the same for the rest.
I don't trust myself to always make the right decision, but I trust myself enough to be able to forge ahead.
Too many have broken their trust-borrowing from me and breaking promises to pay it back; swearing their truth or love and taking it back with lies and leaving.
It is a matter of integrity and unfortunately, some who I thought had it, failed at the slightest provocation. I prefer the 'benefit of the doubt' approach in most cases....trust, but still watch for the slip-ups.

05-27-2004, 06:01 AM	#42 (permalink)
Jackebear Insane	Wow, I am the same as most here...trusting only a few and distrusting most. Kinda sucks really. I used to watch my Dad in the old days where a handshake got a deal done and his word was his bond. Then the 80"s came, I grew up and got burned a few times but not too badly so I went into the 90's wearing my trust out in the open...and $50,000 later (gone) only trust my parents, siblings, wife and 5 friends. I hate what I've become but I had to start being an asshole just to keep my heart and mind safe. Shit. __________________ Life's jounney is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn-out shouting, "Holy sh*t! What a ride!" - unknown

05-28-2004, 01:45 PM	#44 (permalink)
Blackthorn Beware the Mad Irish Location: Wish I was on the N17...	What the original post calls trust is really a description of integrity. If you ask someone to honor their word by keeping a secret and they reveal it I would argue that the person who broke the promise has no integrity. You trust a person of integrity. A person demonstrates a lack of integrity by breaking their promise to keep a secret. This creates mistrust or an expectation of future broken promises. The future expectation of a broken promise still means that you trust the person. It's just that now your trust is in the person to break a future promise vs. keep it. It's a subtle difference but it's there. __________________ What are you willing to give up in order to get what you want?

05-27-2004, 05:38 AM	#41 (permalink)
Wayngo Banned	Ive seen how crazy some people are and I dont think I can trully trust anyone except my parents. And maybe my dog

05-28-2004, 03:31 AM	#43 (permalink)
gondath Insane Location: Alton, IL	For me, it's a question of what I can trust each person with. I never put myself in a position to get screwed over. Certain situations would result in more to lose than gain by selling me out for whatever reason. That's when I know I can trust a person

05-28-2004, 08:42 PM	#45 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	There are a multitude of levels of trust. I trust my dear friends with my life, but only one with any secret or problem I may have. Many know some aspects of my life I have shared with them but this one person knows it all and will never betray it-not sure I can say the same for the rest. I don't trust myself to always make the right decision, but I trust myself enough to be able to forge ahead. Too many have broken their trust-borrowing from me and breaking promises to pay it back; swearing their truth or love and taking it back with lies and leaving. It is a matter of integrity and unfortunately, some who I thought had it, failed at the slightest provocation. I prefer the 'benefit of the doubt' approach in most cases....trust, but still watch for the slip-ups.