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Old 03-01-2004, 07:51 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Do you tell your boss her thong is showing?

I wasn't sure whether this belongs in the Ladies lounge (I am gender-banned), sexuality forum (but there is no sex involved) or politics (do office politics count?), so I defaulted to here:

I'm at work and I just had a meeting with my boss. She was just getting in and was taking off her coat, putting down her bag, etc.

She's wearing a short sweater (not a belly sweater, mind you, but one that stops right at the waist) and pants, and when she bent forward to put something down, I saw a whole lotta thong. Enough to know it was a thong, if you get my drift.

So the question is, do I tell her? And if so, how?

Background: we've got a good relationship, very chatty, etc., but we've never ventured into discussions of our underwear.
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Old 03-01-2004, 07:54 AM   #2 (permalink)
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No because of this response.

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Old 03-01-2004, 07:55 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Maybe instead of you telling her, she was telling you

Orrrr, maybe you just forget about it, as it's a Monday, and don't make a big deal out of it. Wouldn't that just make an akward situation worse ?
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Old 03-01-2004, 07:59 AM   #4 (permalink)
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no. talk to HR and tell them that she's sexually harrassing you by showing you her undergarments.

well that's what you'd do if she was ugly.

but since you are friends, I think you should tell her that you were taken aback by her exposing herself to you.
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Old 03-01-2004, 08:04 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Why even bring it up? I don't really see that you have anything to gain by telling your boss that you got a "sneak peek", but you sure have plenty to lose. Just keep it to yourself, and be satisfied with the knowledge that you got to see some boss butt. I'll go out on a limb, and assume that it's a good thing?
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Old 03-01-2004, 08:05 AM   #6 (permalink)
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If you can tell her in a non office environment, it would be better. She could pull the offended crap on you, and to HR you go. Even if you have a good relationship, she could do this. Or... just don't say a word, and enjoy the view without being caught.
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Old 03-01-2004, 08:05 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I guess it all comes down to if she's hot or not. If she's a hottie I wouldnt tell her and just enjoy it. If she weighs 300lbs and its really nasty I would leave an anonymous note on her desk!

BTW. If she is hot you should take pics and post them

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Old 03-01-2004, 08:14 AM   #8 (permalink)
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BTW. If she is hot you should take pics and post them
Just don't forget to...er...get her permission first.
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Old 03-01-2004, 08:15 AM   #9 (permalink)
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no. talk to HR and tell them that she's sexually harrassing you by showing you her undergarments.
Sad thing is that these days people would take that sertiously

I wouldn't say a thing - not worth it.
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Old 03-01-2004, 08:18 AM   #10 (permalink)
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hell no.
I never mention stuff like that.
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Old 03-01-2004, 08:19 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Unless you are really good friends, the best bet would be to just stay mum about it.

If you are really good friends, you might want to mention it with the disclaimer "I wouldn't want you to inadvertantly expose that to people who aren't as good friends as we are"

This tactic has worked well for me in similar situations.
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Old 03-01-2004, 08:20 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Damn no pictures? Is she hot? I wouldn't tell her at all. Just enjoy the view.
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Old 03-01-2004, 08:34 AM   #13 (permalink)
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No because of this response.

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Old 03-01-2004, 08:42 AM   #14 (permalink)
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If it were me, I'd just let it go. I see them all the time in public places, school, whereever. Sometimes it just...happens. No biggie. Bringing it up is just risking causing a problem and bringing a harassment suit on yourself.
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Old 03-01-2004, 09:17 AM   #15 (permalink)
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Old 03-01-2004, 09:24 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Id say keep it to yourself u dont wanna offend her or piss her off . its not really important anyways
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Old 03-01-2004, 09:28 AM   #17 (permalink)
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It could just as well have been an honest mistake on her part. No reason to make things really awkward by bringing to light something so trivial. Leave it alone.
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Old 03-01-2004, 09:35 AM   #18 (permalink)
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You'd know if your ass was hanging out of your pants, I think she wants the peen.
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Old 03-01-2004, 09:36 AM   #19 (permalink)
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Most pants now are low rise. A vast majority of thongs are not. So thats where the problem is. Low rise pants + non-low rise thong = thong peakage...
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Old 03-01-2004, 09:55 AM   #20 (permalink)
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if you were to warn her about her underwear showing, the time would've been at the meeting. I don't think it really matters then or now, so just let it go.
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Old 03-01-2004, 09:58 AM   #21 (permalink)
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Most pants now are low rise. A vast majority of thongs are not. So thats where the problem is. Low rise pants + non-low rise thong = thong peakage...
= hawt.

Good advice here, I'm curious to know how you handle this. That is, if you do decide to take any action.
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Old 03-01-2004, 10:04 AM   #22 (permalink)
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If its something that could potentially embarrass her, like say she has a big client meeting , then I think you should tactfully let her know. If there's no chance of that happening, why worry?

If you decide to tell her, I would not use the term "thong," just let her know that when she bends over, her underwear is exposed and that you want to warn her before she is subjected to any further embarrasment
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Old 03-01-2004, 10:49 AM   #23 (permalink)
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you dont tell ppl they are fat
you dont tell ppl they are ugly
you dont tell ppl they have somehing hanging out of their nose
you dont tell ppl they forgot to zip up
you CERTAINLY dont tell your boss she had good thongs
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Old 03-01-2004, 10:50 AM   #24 (permalink)
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Old 03-01-2004, 10:53 AM   #25 (permalink)
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why bring it up if you're not offended by it? you wouldn't bring it up if your boss leaned over and you got a glimpse of her bra, would you?
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Old 03-01-2004, 10:53 AM   #26 (permalink)
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last time i checked, a woman knows that people have the potential to see their underwear when they wear certain clothes, so in my view she was probably aware that she might have outside exposure of her thong, na djust didn't care.
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Old 03-01-2004, 11:00 AM   #27 (permalink)
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If my penis was wagging out of my button flys, I would certainly hope someone would tell me about it, even if it was my subordinates. Ok, slightly different.....

No way....don't tell her you noticed. In fact, pass her numbers over here and let me handle the situation.
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Old 03-01-2004, 11:15 AM   #28 (permalink)
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Leave it alone dude...you had a look
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Old 03-01-2004, 01:11 PM   #29 (permalink)
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I wouldn't say anything. Just leave it alone and enjoy the view. That's what I do around here.
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Old 03-01-2004, 01:26 PM   #30 (permalink)
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Old 03-01-2004, 01:30 PM   #31 (permalink)
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Wording carefully what you say to someone will prevent any statement from sounding like sexual harassment.

Personally, I wouldn't say anything to her unless it happens again. She may or not be aware that her thong was showing. Although some of us purposely try to show off to those we are interested in

One of my colleagues told me non-verbally with a hand gesture that my thong was showing. We are friends out of work so something like that wasn't offensive to me. If it had been someone I didn't know the reaction may not have been so calm.
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Old 03-01-2004, 01:45 PM   #32 (permalink)
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Old 03-01-2004, 02:02 PM   #33 (permalink)
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Well, I think we have a consensus!

FYI, I said nothing, and she seems to have fixed the problem (just got out of another meeting with her and no thong in sight).

And thanks a lot, now I'm starting to think she was hitting on me!
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Old 03-01-2004, 02:31 PM   #34 (permalink)
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Old 03-01-2004, 03:27 PM   #35 (permalink)
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If its something that could potentially embarrass her, like say she has a big client meeting , then I think you should tactfully let her know. If there's no chance of that happening, why worry?

If you decide to tell her, I would not use the term "thong," just let her know that when she bends over, her underwear is exposed and that you want to warn her before she is subjected to any further embarrasment
I have to agree with Bobaphat and go against the tide here. If you have a reasonably good relationship with her I would advise you to tell her tactfully. Let her know her underwear is visible at certain times and that you wouldn't want her to become embarrassed in front of other employees. She will appreciate you looking out for her interests and if it was intentional she will have the opportunity to let you know. I have a good working relationship with women in my office and the few times I have told them about their garment malfunctions they are usually appreciative.
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Old 03-01-2004, 03:31 PM   #36 (permalink)
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I disagree with the view that if its embarassing dont tell people. I mean it happens to the best of us and when someone tells me something like i got a booger haha not often but its happened I always appreciate it.

In this case, if it happens once in a while say nothing. If its an every day thing and you think she may not know then I would think she may appreciate being told but do it gently. Like I said tho, only if its becoming a pattern.
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Old 03-01-2004, 03:40 PM   #37 (permalink)
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Old 03-01-2004, 05:04 PM   #38 (permalink)
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Well, it she's hitting on you, ask her to out for drinks after work, and see if you can get into her thong? Why not eh?
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Old 03-01-2004, 06:13 PM   #39 (permalink)
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if she's Hot then don't tell her and keep on staring. =D
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Old 03-01-2004, 06:40 PM   #40 (permalink)
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Similar problem at work, except the boss aint hot. Doesn't mean I'm going to tell her though!
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