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Old 04-23-2004, 09:41 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Trying to come to terms.....

Today at 1:30 pm I found out one of my good friends from high school was shot and killed at a night club in Mexico last night. She was there as an exchange student... just finishing up her semester. I think I am in shock..... trying to understand how and why this could happen to someone so young. She was so beautiful and full of life. Only 20 years old. She had so much going for her. I cant believe its real, and that she is gone. It just doesnt fit and seem right that this was her time. She wanted to be in Mexico so bad...... and thats where she died. It seems fitting I suppose.

I guess I just dont know how to deal right now. I have never lost anyone I cared about. I am so saddened and yet numb.
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Old 04-23-2004, 10:26 PM   #2 (permalink)
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i'm very sorry to hear about your friend... I hope the mexican authorities are organized enough to bring her murderer to justice.

please let us know if you find out anything regarding the investigation.
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Old 04-23-2004, 10:26 PM   #3 (permalink)
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i'm sorry for your loss. sometimes life just doesn't make sense. and sometimes i think it's not supposed to.

when i think of these things i remember a story my english prof told us. an interviewer once asked Allen Ginsberg if he missed Jack Kerouac. He said yes, but then checked himself, he then said he didn't really, because Jack is still alive in his memories and in his mind he could talk to him everyday.

i always say this and i always mean it, the people who never got to meet her are the ones who lose the most.

i am truly sorry and saddened to hear of this news and i hope that you and the people she loved and who loved her can pull through.

bless...
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Old 04-23-2004, 10:37 PM   #4 (permalink)
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10 years ago my best friend was killed in a plane crash. He is with me to this day.

I know your numbness. Its a rough time. Some things just don't make sense.


Hang on, it gets better. Slowly, but it does.

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Old 04-24-2004, 05:41 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I'm so sorry...losing someone young is adding insult to injury. Just know that however you feel right now is how you're supposed to feel. We never know why things happen the way they do. Maybe there is no "why," or maybe it's up to us to figure that out, or create it. Take care of yourself right now, and just remember her and the life she lived.

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Old 04-24-2004, 11:05 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Thank you all for your kind words. Yesterday was a rough day... but I hope today will be better. I am trying to think of her and what a happy person she was. She truly enjoyed life- and I am so glad for that, because hers was cut so short.
I found out that the shots were actually meant for 2 guys she was with. Their was a confrontation at the club, and when they left, they didnt realize they had been followed. They shot at the car. She was in the back seat, and they hit her. That makes me sick to type it. Doesnt sound real at all.
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Old 04-24-2004, 05:03 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Old 04-24-2004, 05:07 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Hey diddagirl, she wouldn't happen to be a calgarian would she?

Calgary Hearld had the same thing on their frontpage...
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Old 04-25-2004, 07:51 AM   #9 (permalink)
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I'm so sorry! You and her family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Old 04-25-2004, 12:11 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Hey diddagirl, she wouldn't happen to be a calgarian would she?

Calgary Hearld had the same thing on their frontpage...
Yes she was....that was her. Makes it hit much harder, and so much more real when u read those words, dead and killed- and you see her picture beside it.
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Old 04-25-2004, 12:58 PM   #11 (permalink)
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I'm horribly sorry diddagirl.... it hits home every now and then. A close friend of mine is in Mexico right now on a year exchange program as well, and that really scared me shitless when you mentioned that. I feel for you sweetie.
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Old 04-25-2004, 03:52 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Yes she was....that was her. Makes it hit much harder, and so much more real when u read those words, dead and killed- and you see her picture beside it.
Reading something horrible that happened to a friend or family from the media is really hard to bear with. Especially when the media reports it in cold tone.

My sympathy goes out to you and the victim's family.
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Old 04-25-2004, 03:54 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I'm sorry for your loss, and for her family's. But she will always be in your thoughts. I lost a lifelong friend 10 years ago; the pain is gone now, though not the regret, but hardly a day goes by when I don't think of him in some good way.
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Old 04-29-2004, 01:48 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Her funeral is tomorrow. I am scared for it. Nervous at how deep and real the pain and saddness will be. She is constantly on my mind....every time I am not doing something- i think of her and the horrible way that she died. She was was so deeply loved, and will certainly live in mine and all her friends and family's hearts forever.
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Old 04-29-2004, 06:19 AM   #15 (permalink)
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I missed this thread before, I was talking with family and friends the day I read about it in the paper. Such a terrible tragedy, we had friends from Calgary that were in Mexico on the same program a couple years ago, usually where they are is such a friendly safe place. For something like this to happen is shocking.

I'm sorry for your loss, from all I've read and seen it sounds like she'll be sorely missed by all who knew her.
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