Crack

nada, nothing, bupkiss, zilch, 0

n.

1. Something that has no existence.
2. Something that has no quantitative value; zero: a score of two to nothing.
3. One that has no substance or importance; a nonentity: “A nothing is a dreadful thing to hold onto” (Edna O'Brien).

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I felt kinda odd sitting there watching the rest of the family open all the presents with all the distant relatives, close family, and cousins of uncles of brother-in-laws of football coaches best friends transvistite lovers gleefully unwraping all the booty, santa brought them thinking, "hmmm, my present must be further under the tree".
Then when the last gift was given out, the reality finally hit me, I had been forgotten about. I kinda slinked off downtrodden, wishing I would have at least gotten a card.
Let me know that I am not alone here, in the world of christmas lost.

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Rodney

Well, I didn't, but only because my wife and I agreed not to, and we stopped exchanging gifts with our relatives -- none of us have any kids, everybody's in their 50s, and if we really want something, we buy it for ourselves. Of course my wife's bday is the day after Christmas, and for _that_ she got a gift.

I guess the question I have to ask is, do _you_ give any of those folks anything for Christmas? Birthday? Cards of any kind? If so, it's unforgivable what they did, and you should extract a little guilt straight outa their veins. But if not... well, it's gonna happen. If you don't maintain ties with relatives, they'll most of them stop trying to do it with you...

Willravel

I'll send you a belated Christmas gift, if you want. I'll send you a lot mroe than a card.

flamingdog

Blimey mate, that's a tough one to swallow. Had you actually been forgotten about? Coule there be another explanation? Have you raised it with anyone? Did you get anything during the year as an early Christmas present?

If it helps, my mother got me a bunch of stuff I have no use for, nor did I want it.

dlish

being a muslim, we dont celebrate xmas..i recieved nothing but i gave one present to a friend but got nothing back... does it make me feel bad? hmm..not really.. i1ll live.. just

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flat5

I got one Xmas card in the mail, but it had a two word message and a busness card enclosed.

No problem.

Crack

yep, I bought presents for a lot of them, not all, but I made sure at least bought every kid under 15 a present. and most of the adults I was close with.
Being 25 I don't really need the presents, like Rodney said above if there is something I want, i'll just go buy it, but its nice to get back when you give...

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flamingdog

Well you know, it's not the getting of stuff, or what you get, that it's all about. It's all about people thinking of you. That sucks man, so sorry to hear that.

Rodney

Well, that does suck. If you usually buy most of the kids presents, and also some of the adults; and some of the adults bought presents for each other; then I'd say something's off. Not even dull, practical presents from your parents, like socks or a sweater?

I don't have many suggestions. But if Mom is around, and makes any pretension to actually liking your, tell her what happened and ask, "Mom, does the family hate me or something? Maybe I should stop giving presents to everybody else if they don't care enough to give me one. Do you think they really don't want my presents?" That's just the sort of combination load of guilt and threat to family equilibrium that tends to put most moms in full damage control mode. And if you don't get presents for _next_ Christmas after all that, then that would mean that your family -really- doesn't give a rat's ass about you. But I suspect that they do.

mew

Oh you poor thing. I know you dont want pity, but I think you shouldve at least gotten cookies or something. *hugs* verbalize you being neglected because they should know what they did and rectify their mistake.

Impetuous1

I didn't get anything either.

I feel your pain man.

kylie

ohhhh i am so sorry ... kisses and hugs for you .. i feel bad that cos everyone should get something . if that happen to me i will ask where is mine ? sorry to hear about it . if you want we can get to gather and celebrate just a happy holiday ;p

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Crack

Holidays suck. This has been the crapiest year ever. Divorce sucks, now christmas sucks too, maybe next year will be better.

lets do it. Chicago "holidays suck" after christmas party! Woohoo!

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bloodychill

I got nothing for Christmas, but that's because I'm Jewish. I'm clever.

Poppinjay

Props to Rodney for shrewd suggestions on manipulating the powerful force that is mom-ism.

Bring it back up around May, August, and November, and you'll probably get a car or something.

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Crack

alas, my mom lives in Arizona with her other "family" I spent christmas with my Aunt and uncle, and my dad's side of the family. This being the aunt and uncle that raised me since I was 14. My dad was out of town, he took my half brother to texas to visit his grandfather. I just really felt like an outcast, being so alone, like I wasn't the most important person to anyone. I think everyone needs that sometimes.

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Fly

*hugs crack*

i love you man.

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Karby

i got nothing from other people. i gave something to my mom and dad though. i also i gave some presents to myself. at the very least i didn't forget about me! i know that's selfish, but hey...

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Rodney

That is rough. So your mom's elsewhere with her own new family, your dad sounds like he remarried also and has another family, and the aunts and uncles and cousins seem like they consider you a relative, but not "family."

I don't want to be negative, but if you are reaching out to all these blood relatives and not getting much reaching back, it might be time to make your own "family:" I don't mean necessarily that you should get married and start pumping out babies, but maybe you should find your own group of friends to celebrate the holidays with -- go out together, have them over, whatever. Your real relatives are not necessarily the ones you're born with, you know.

A good friend of mine and his wife go over every year and have Christmas eve with her weird relatives, just to confirm the ties, then celebrate the actual Christmas day at their own place and invite over friends for dinner, especially ones that don't have their own families around. It's a cool scene.

Crack

I guess it's time to go out and get that emo haircut... Bah, I was really trying to avoid it.

:P

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