Sharon

Ok I'm kind of giddy now as I type this...

Last night I went out for a drink with some friends, and this guy came over to talk to us. His sexual energy was unlike anything I've ever encountered before - I can't explain it, he wasn't particularly good looking, or tall, or anything obvious... but twenty minutes after we met, I found myself walking out of the bar with him, and not only going back to his place but spending most of the night crossing personal sexual boundaries I would normally never dream of giving up in the first few months of knowing a guy (and a couple that even I've never done before), and at the same time not wanting to do them but loving every second of it .

It's like he was sucking away all my control and I was helpless but to surrender to it. And of course now I'm worried that I came across as too easy and he'll never call me... but I want him to, so badly, and right now, and arrrrgh...

Geez, it sounds like I'm a teenager all over again!

mixedmedia

Congratulations!

I don't know what else to say but I just wanted to offer my best wishes...and I hope he calls you back.

Oh, and yes...I have met a man like this.

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maleficent

ahem - your dialing finger broken? you don't need to wait for him to call you - pick up the phone and call him

Sounds like you had fun...

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ShaniFaye

I met a man like that once....married him too, well cept for the not good looking part cause we all know how incredibly sexy and wonderful I think Dave is hehehehe

good luck, hope you two meet again

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*Nikki*

Yes I have met many men like that. I married one of them.

ShaniFaye

One of our male readers writes:

Met one? I am one...

The truth is that I never realised I was that sort of persn until I was presented with the right sort of woman - so I guess it's not about the man being a sexual dynamo (although I am ) but that the combination of man and woman are hyper-compatible.

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Kaliena

Kudos...sounds like you've got some hot times ahead!

Call him!

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StormBerlin

I'm so happy for you He wouldn't be a Scorpio by chance, would he?

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Sharon

Wow, thanks for all your supportive posts! I couldn't call him if I tried, because I didn't get his phone number... I was too shy and a little embarrassed to ask when I said goodbye this morning so I put my name and number (and a kiss of lipstick) on a slip of paper and left it on his pillow.

God, I've done this all wrong haven't I?! I've broken all the rules about keeping a man interested... left my number on his pillow, with a kiss, had just about the dirtiest sex ever with him on the night we met, having left with him 20 minutes after shaking hands... even if he does call, where does a relationship go from there?

Ugh, maybe I'm just being paranoid. Actually to hell with it... I *AM* being paranoid...

maleficent

sometimes rules are meant to be broken...

but if he doesn't call - well you had a great time .. no regrets at all...

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ShaniFaye

well like I said before....it led to me being extremely happily married for over a year now, and we've been together for over 3 years

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Sultana

This is very cute! Good luck, I hope you can have fun with it!

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Sharon

He hasn't called. I'm sad.

Haven't thought about much else for the past three days. I had a very vivid "flashback" dream last night and woke up sweaty and agitated. I'm simultaneously really wishing I knew his phone number, and glad I didn't as I probably wouldn't be able to leave him alone. I guess it's a partial blessing that I can't remember exactly where he lives because then I'd be a stalker.

One thing I wasn't expecting is that I'm developing a new sympathy for some of the men who've been cursed with misguided obsessions with me over the years. I used to think they were pathetic and weak, but now I know what it's like. God I can be such a bitch.

You know, I'm beginning to think there's something to be said about not giving up too much too soon, physically certainly and maybe emotionally... but I really don't know if I would have been able to resist even if I had wanted to. And if he were to call me up right now, I know I'd be eagerly doing what he told me to in an hour's time.

This really sucks. It would probably be amusing if it wasn't so frustrating.

mixedmedia

Chin up, babe. I know it's hard but try not to get too down about it. Be happy that you had a totally hot (and safe) experience and emerged with a new understanding of your sexual self.

Besides, I've found in my own experience that when I push situations to go the way I so want them to be, they don't usually turn out the way I imagined them. In other words, maybe you're better off with just the memories of one unforgettable night in this situation.

And then again he may still call.

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PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

Sultana

*hugs* to Sharon.

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"Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath.
At night, the ice weasels come." -

Matt Groening

My goal? To fulfill my potential.

Sharon

Well, I thought I was over him, but he called yesterday. What saddens me is that I think he was just after some easy sex and no relationship will ever develop... but on the bright side, he did come over and leave me with rope burn on my wrists, a very sore ass and unable to stand up straight afterwards. Maybe a fuck buddy situation is salvageable.

mixedmedia

Actually, I've found that this kind of situation is very workable. It has its advantages and its own kind of "loose-leaf" intimacy will enter into it. A camaraderie of sorts that's, not better, just different from that of a more serious relationship. This is the way it has worked for me anyway.

And congratulations...sounds nice.

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PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

hagatha

Anytime you feel you've given up all your power and control over your emotions, sexual desire, whatever, you lose. Maybe you can just have a good memory of it and move on. If he comes back you may find your life turned completely upside down.
good luck with that.

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Demeter

I had chemistry with a man like that once. It was like electricity whenever we saw each other, even after our little fling was over.
I had a hard time getting over being dumped by him even though I knew he wasn't the type of guy I'd see long term.
Now when I see him I just smile & remember the fun we had.

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serlindsipity

Guys like that are overwhelming... but in a good way. they are the kind that make you feel powerful and weak (in the knees) all in once moment. I'd say, screw him until you get sick of it, and then delete his number. And do this if for no other reason then when he's gone and you'relonely some other day you have some really good memories to masturbate to!

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JustDoll

you should watching "killing me softly" or read the novel by Nicci French my fav author ..ur situation starts out exactly the way the storyline of this novel does...but the story takes a scary twist in the middle...which might freak you out ....

anyway... happy for you and ur new found love :P

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Sharon

Oh great... and I think I actually have that book somewhere. From the title I think I can work out what the twist is like...

Sharon

Went out and got me some last night. I still haven't plucked the courage up to ask him what this is (which is probably a good thing), but the thrill is still very much there so I guess I'll just take it when it comes and not ask too many questions.

serlindsipity

still fabulous as always sharon? or is it starting to wear off at all?

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Sharon

Oh, it was still exciting all right. We almost got caught this time... it was outside on a rather chilly night behind a row of shops. I was convinced my nipples were going to slice through my shirt.

I guess my only worry is that I'm starting to get attached to this guy, even though I don't really know much about him. His sexuality just throws me completely out of whack.

Sultana

Not that I'm wanting to discouraging you at all, I just wanna make sure you take care of/protect yourself. I'd encourage you to find out more about this guy. If it's so fragile that you just asking for some info. is gonna "ruin" it...it's not all that robust.

I guess I'd just love it if he could be more for ya, is all.

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At night, the ice weasels come." -

Matt Groening

My goal? To fulfill my potential.

JustDoll

...sharon dun worry =)... lol at least if that happens...you know how to get out of it..from reading the book lol.. hehe jk.

so how is everything with ur guy??

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serlindsipity

i gotta admit, if there was anyone I am living vicariously through, it would be you. I envy the passion, but I do not envy the potential inevitable downfall (im a pessimist, you can ignore that last line). but no less, I hope the best for you and I guess when you feel that feeling, its time to do something. until then, just keep enjoying your O face!

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