Luki

OK, I'm pretty sure that I am not the first one to have this problem, and maybe not even the first one to post it here. To the point, lately I've been having problems getting horny. I prolly wouldn't have noticed it but.. I haven't been horny in a long time. It somewhat bothers me, I used to have issues trying to keep certain thoughts out of my head, but now, when I think about them, it doesn't get me all hot and bothered. I just feel like I'm demoralizing myself.

Any thoughts?

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lurkette

Could be any number of things - depression, hormones, fatigue, stress, medication side effects. Are you on any new meds? Have you changed birth control pills? Any stressful events going on in your life? Those are a few places to start looking. People change, and what turns them on sometimes changes over time. If it's a problem for you, you might want to see a doctor or a therapist (depending on whether you think it's a physical or a mental issue). If there's no obvious cause and it's not an issue for any relationship you're in, I'd say be patient and wait it out. Sometimes just worrying about not being able to get horny is obstacle enough, and when you relax and just forget about it, the problem goes away. But definitely go get checked out if you think there might be something more serious at the heart of it.

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pinklily

I've felt like this before. I think you have to just wait it out, even if it feels like it's taking forever. In the mean time, relax and stay in touch with yourself so you can be aware of how you are feeling.

gabshu

This is happening to me too and I am uterly convinced it's my new birth control. I know how you feel, it sucks.

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Apache

The only time this ever happened to me it was due to my birth control pills. I got ALL the side effects from them i think, and one was just that i couldn't ever get in the mood. Thank God i went off of them because i too know how it feels and it really does suck.

Nancy

hmm I guess you're just having a down period - but who here hasn't tried that?

You could try reading a lot of erotic novels to help getting yourself into the mood....that always works for me

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Gwenllian

I so hate when that happens to me. I so start to question myself and my life and my current relationship. I just feel so unsexy and cranky as all get out.

I hope things improve for you. Be sure to look a the things that have changed in your life recently (like others have suggested) and maybe you will find the source of your lacking libido.

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wannabenakid247

I would try watching some porn and see what happens

fallenangel

If it's a physical thing, i would strongly suggest investing in this clitoral stimulation gel called 'O My!" comes in a small pink tube, it's absolutely amazing, you put a very small bit on, massage it in, and it tingles, heats up, cools off, i dunno, if i'm ever not in the mood, ijust use some of this and i automatically start getting turned on. Just a thought

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