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fallenangel · 03-17-2004, 01:07 AM

all right, so here's the short version of a long headache i'm trying to sort through right now. let's summarize,

1. my bf posts shit on online forums, he does it openly, well visits the sites at least, but doesn't realize that i'm not stupid and have checked once in a while.

2. i've found stuff online that has really really fucked with my noggin, in the sense that what he tells me and what he posts are two totally different stories.

3. i want to believe that sometimes he just embellishes online to provoke more conversation from other people, however, part of me is confused because why would he lie about something like this?

4. anything i do find online and have sort of subtly brought up to talk to him about, he flat out lies to me for.

i'm very confused, and i think i'm coming to terms with the fact i'm never going to get a straight answer *sigh*
perhaps this is one of the major factors leading to our break up... it's for the better, neither one of us is perfect by any stretch, i dunno, i'm just babbling.

lurkette · 03-17-2004, 06:14 AM

Lying is not a great sign, even if he's just "embellishing" online. Sneaking around and checking up on him is not a great sign for a healthy relationship, either, though. I think if you guys can't communicate straight with each other you're probably better off breaking up. Sorry to be blunt.

Annabella · 03-17-2004, 08:02 AM

Thats not so good thing if you cannot trust your bf...!I agree what lurkette says...!if your relationship is going well you shouldn't be confused afterall..

txlovely · 03-17-2004, 08:30 AM

Trust is everything and I'm struggling with some of my own trust issues right now. I have no real sage advice other than don't put off cutting your losses. The longer you wait the harder it gets. I love my SO very much and think I am finally getting across to him that we have to be able to trust each other or we're doomed. I don't know where he learned to lie, but he does it a lot and he's not very good at it.

fallenangel · 03-17-2004, 11:06 AM

we've since broken up, other issues, but as i was babbling about in a different thread, we're still close, we're just better off as friends because of too many emotional and mental differences... thanks though for posting, you guys are basically stating what i was avoiding thinking about.

03-17-2004, 01:07 AM	#1 (permalink)
fallenangel soaring Location: near the water	a new perspective all right, so here's the short version of a long headache i'm trying to sort through right now. let's summarize, 1. my bf posts shit on online forums, he does it openly, well visits the sites at least, but doesn't realize that i'm not stupid and have checked once in a while. 2. i've found stuff online that has really really fucked with my noggin, in the sense that what he tells me and what he posts are two totally different stories. 3. i want to believe that sometimes he just embellishes online to provoke more conversation from other people, however, part of me is confused because why would he lie about something like this? 4. anything i do find online and have sort of subtly brought up to talk to him about, he flat out lies to me for. i'm very confused, and i think i'm coming to terms with the fact i'm never going to get a straight answer sigh perhaps this is one of the major factors leading to our break up... it's for the better, neither one of us is perfect by any stretch, i dunno, i'm just babbling. __________________ all I wanna do is - give the best of me to you

03-17-2004, 06:14 AM	#2 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Lying is not a great sign, even if he's just "embellishing" online. Sneaking around and checking up on him is not a great sign for a healthy relationship, either, though. I think if you guys can't communicate straight with each other you're probably better off breaking up. Sorry to be blunt. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

03-17-2004, 08:02 AM	#3 (permalink)
Annabella Tilted	Thats not so good thing if you cannot trust your bf...!I agree what lurkette says...!if your relationship is going well you shouldn't be confused afterall.. __________________ Milloin vaan voi kiihoittua!!

03-17-2004, 08:30 AM	#4 (permalink)
txlovely Insane Location: ...We have a problem.	Trust is everything and I'm struggling with some of my own trust issues right now. I have no real sage advice other than don't put off cutting your losses. The longer you wait the harder it gets. I love my SO very much and think I am finally getting across to him that we have to be able to trust each other or we're doomed. I don't know where he learned to lie, but he does it a lot and he's not very good at it. __________________ Cruel words erode self-esteem like the ocean eats away the shore.

03-17-2004, 11:06 AM	#5 (permalink)
fallenangel soaring Location: near the water	we've since broken up, other issues, but as i was babbling about in a different thread, we're still close, we're just better off as friends because of too many emotional and mental differences... thanks though for posting, you guys are basically stating what i was avoiding thinking about. __________________ all I wanna do is - give the best of me to you