Starlight4

Hi, ladies,

I tried doing a search for this topic, but figured it'd be easier for me this way My bf and I have tried anal sex before, but I really didn't like it because it felt very uncomfortable to me and we talked about it afterwards and decided that we weren't going to do it again.

Last night, my bf and I were having sex and he was about to cum when he slipped out so he just SHOVED himself back in me really fast but he shoved it in the wrong hole!!! It hurt so badly that I couldn't even control the crying and now I can't even sit without having that pain there. So now, I sort of am afraid to have sex with him again and it feels sort of weird. I'm scared.

He's apologized and told me he didn't mean to do that at all and that he would never hurt me, but, I was wondering if this ever happened to anyone else and if it did and you felt the way I did, how did you handle it?

maleficent

If you are still in pain in a day or so, go to your gyno asap -- that is a very sensitive area, with lots of senstive, delicate tissues... without proper amounts of lubrication, some of those delicate tissues could have been torn.

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greeneyes

I've been there... the guy was too drunk to realize what the hell he was doing and -BAM!- I lost my anal virginity. It hurt pretty damned bad but the worst part was sitting through a four hour seminar the next day at work. I was squirming around because I was so uncomfortable.

Eventually the uncomfortable/pain feeling goes away but if there is some residual emotional uncomfortability still lingering, talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him that the next time the two of you have sex, you need it to be a bit gentler. Have him go slow and take his time that way you won't be worrying that he will accidentally hit the wrong spot again.

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amonkie

It's easy to get carried away and not even notice until an OWWW! escapes your lips. It was definitely a mood killer, and the guy really tried to make it up to me.

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KinkyKiwi

almost happend to me..luckly he stopped before it went in...but jeeze that musta been some rough sex! ..anyway..yea stuff coulda gotten torn but also if the tissue got torn it can get infected...so go to your gyno or at least call your dr. ...

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Starlight4

Thanks for everyone's concern and advice. The pain has mostly subsided and the "weirdness" has gone away as well. My bf and I have talked about it and he's apologized numerous times, very sincerely, so I'm sure things will be ok. Thanks again, ladies.

Acetylene

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lindseylatch

ha, I would SOOOO not trust that it was an "accident." Seriously, how hard is it to hit the right hole? Besides, your anus is a LOT tighter than your vagina, so you'd think that he would be able to tell the difference right off the bat...

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hunnychile

I'm still chuckling, because I'm still a virgin anally. I've tried with SO but we both decided it wasn't worth the pain or hassle. Sorta like why go to the back door when your're always welcome in the front with flowers and candy.

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Nancy

When a guy is fucking you at super speed it's pretty damn easy to suddenly end up in the wrong hole - especially since a guy isn't looking at where his dick's going. If he did he'd cum in less than 3 minutes.

This has happened to me dozens of times and I don't make a big deal out of it because we have anal sex very regularly so my ass is used to it by now. Whenever he shoves it up in my ass by mistake he just apologize, asks if it hurt too much and then we continue. No biggie.

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Nancy

Poor you It can hurt quite a bit yes, and should it ever happen again try sitting on a warming pad for an hour or so - that should help a lot

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