healer

I have a terrible memory - and since I found out Kevin Trudeau's a fraud, I fear it may be a permanent condition.

In my 'search-before-posting', however, I stumbled onto one of ART's old threads in which he highlights some (I hope) good techniques of how to improve you memory. I'll definitely be trying them out. Now to stray back onto the topic...

I forgot my gran's birthday earlier this week. My dad reminded me a day or two before, and even went on to say that I should call her "if and when I get a chance to". I felt bad after he said that because I've been guilty of not making enough time for family recently. Still, I forgot to call.

I don't mind forgetting the small things - It's the big one's that get to me. I feel that people equate your remembering something to how strongly you feel about it or how important it is to you. How many times haven't I heard it said that "If it was important enough to you, you would've remembered". Husbands forgetting anniversaries have even become cliched. Are they bad people? Did they not care about their wedding anniversary enough to remember it?

Or are they just forgetful.

My example may not be the best one but it serves it's purpose. I know the onus lies with me to remember whatever it is I need to. But is what I do and don't remember a reflection of who I am? Do you form an opinion of someone because of what they may or may not have remembered?

-healer

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maleficent

I remember scads of trivia and other inane things... I forget things that are important to others, like birthdays and anniversaries and well -- to call... it's not important to be, but it is to others- does this make me a bad person because I forget suchthings? Probably, to some... but I think it's part of who I am... and people can accept it or not. I've never been under the mindset that doing something because somoene else wants you to do it -- is a good reason to do anything...

Does the person who forgets an anniversary not care about their spouse? Probably not.. they just have a different priority in thier head... What shows that tehy care is that they come home to their spouse and they treat them with respect... a date on calandar is just that-- one date... love and respect of another are a daily thing.

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Zeraph

I'm with you there OP because I too am like that. I forget things with equal opportunity, important or no. So it follows that I don't judge people on such, especially since my Dad is even worse than I am. It's actually pretty messed up. A lot of people dislike him for it, it's close to prejudice, when in fact it's a biological problem/disease or whatever. It's like hating someone because of diabetes.

Elphaba

I'm juggling date information, before and after now, to such a degree that I forget my own birthday let alone anyone elses. There are so many ways to create reminders for myself, but.....I'm lazy.

dlish

i forgot my birthday this year..at the ripe old age of 28

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mandy

i think we're all a bit forgetfull at times...i know i am alot of the time.it's something that you need to work on. it doesn't refelect badly on you, all it does is say that you are a forgetfull person and you need to be reminded of what it is you need to remember.

however, if it is something really really important and you're sure that you'll forget it, write it down or put a reminder on your phone.

you may be forgetfull but there are ways to combat forgetfullness.

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Brewmaniac

What was this thread about? I'm an equal-opportunity forgeterer!

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