Death of father-in-law's dad...what to do? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Prince · 05-06-2007, 10:14 AM

My wife's grandfather passed away. He had been sick for a good while so it was not a surprise. Due to work etc we may not be able to make the funeral. We will try, though.

I don't know what the protocol is in the US. In my native country, I would send a thing called "adressi" which is a large, distinguished-looking sympathy card, whether or not I could attend the funeral. But in the States, I don't know what is appropriate.

Especially since he was my wife's grandfather, hence making him "sort of" my family as well, through my wife anyway.

I don't know what kind of gesture would be warranted and not over-the-top, to my wife's parents and her grandmother.

ShaniFaye · 05-06-2007, 01:17 PM

If you cant make the funeral, a card for the grandmother would be great. When my grandfather died last summer they asked Dave to be a pallbearer, but that isnt something you can do if you cant attend the funeral.

A sympathy card will be a good idea.

I dont know how close your wife was to her grandfather, I was extremley close to mine, so it helped me a LOT that Dave just let me talk, cry and "remember"....he had a VERY big shoulder for me for about a week.

Im sorry for her loss

woohog1 · 05-06-2007, 01:30 PM

I agree w/ Shani on this one. A card addressed to your wifes grandmother would prolly be best. Not something big and bold, but rather something from the heart. Im sure that would mean more to her, than a big loud card. Hope this helps, and I am sorry for your loss.

05-06-2007, 10:14 AM	#1 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	Death of father-in-law's dad...what to do? My wife's grandfather passed away. He had been sick for a good while so it was not a surprise. Due to work etc we may not be able to make the funeral. We will try, though. I don't know what the protocol is in the US. In my native country, I would send a thing called "adressi" which is a large, distinguished-looking sympathy card, whether or not I could attend the funeral. But in the States, I don't know what is appropriate. Especially since he was my wife's grandfather, hence making him "sort of" my family as well, through my wife anyway. I don't know what kind of gesture would be warranted and not over-the-top, to my wife's parents and her grandmother. __________________ Who is John Galt?

05-06-2007, 01:17 PM	#2 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	If you cant make the funeral, a card for the grandmother would be great. When my grandfather died last summer they asked Dave to be a pallbearer, but that isnt something you can do if you cant attend the funeral. A sympathy card will be a good idea. I dont know how close your wife was to her grandfather, I was extremley close to mine, so it helped me a LOT that Dave just let me talk, cry and "remember"....he had a VERY big shoulder for me for about a week. Im sorry for her loss __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

05-06-2007, 01:30 PM	#3 (permalink)
woohog1 Crazy Location: Arkansas	I agree w/ Shani on this one. A card addressed to your wifes grandmother would prolly be best. Not something big and bold, but rather something from the heart. Im sure that would mean more to her, than a big loud card. Hope this helps, and I am sorry for your loss. __________________ God created man, Sam Colt made them equal.