1337haxor

Hey,
This may or may not belong here. Mods, you be the judge.

Anyways,
I should be able to make a decision but old emotions die hard. A while ago I decided not to speak with anyone that was associated with my ex best friend. For those who remember my old old post, my best friend back stabbed me, used me, and manipulated me with the sickest methods possible. Now that decision is coming up again. This time with the girl I went to prom with. I met her through my ex best friend, but I figured out that my best friend was using her to control me. Now she had no idea that she was being used to control me. We got along okay and I had a thing for her but I soon realised she wasn't interested. I don't think she was even interested in being friends I think, but that may have to do with the fact that she lives 15 miles away, she has her own group of friends, and she is really busy with 2 jobs and school.
So here is why I can't make the decision. I am probably going to be seeing a lot of her soon (the girl i went to prom with). I am going to be apply for a job at where she works as a tech support guy that goes around fixing things. Also she is going to be going to the same school as me majoring in that I am going to be minoring in. And finally I may see her at the local ivy league school this summer in class.
Should I break silence and talk to her? I would but I am afraid of old emotions and things just bringing me down again. Honestly I still have a small crush on her, but I know i'd probably won't work out so I'd settle for being friends. I'd appreciate input, suggestions, or just flaming to get my senses straight.

Thanks,
Robert

KellyC

Well..IMO. I would talk to her and be her friend, if situations lead to that. I wouldn't go as far as not talking to people who associate with that ex best friend of yours. I don't see a need to do that, why take it out on someone else when only one person is responsible for the wrong doing? Kinda silly...imo again...

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This has bad news written all over it. Manipulation, workplace relationship, and past relationship. You, sir, have a trifecta of potential relationship horrors. If you're goign to work with her, establish a cordial professional relationship and nothing more.

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Ratbas......err, MrSelfDestruct speaks the truth.

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World's King

Well, seeing as how you will have to talk to her at work and possible in class... the silance has to be broken. But be very honest with her on your intentions. Do not by any means attempt to spark a friendship with her unless one devlopes over time which by the laws of nature will happen. Keep it cool and don't let the past judge what you do in the future.

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1337haxor

update: apparently she hasn't forgotten me because she was snooping through my aim buddy profile the past few days, only problem is that I don't think I ever gave her this screenname and it could have been my ex best friends on her computer at work (yeah she works there too but not for much longer I think) but i may just be paranoid.

Thanks for your input,
Robert

tecoyah

Danger...Will Robinson, Danger.

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Kaos

If you meet up, be nice, talk to her in passing but leave it at that. If things progress later on (You can trust her, things have changed since former problems) then so be it.

1337haxor

I like this the most, but its so damn tempting to just IM her to see whats up! lol

Thanks,
Robert

Kaos

No problem, and yes the temptation is hard. I had this friend who is trying to get back into my life and she messages me once in awhile. I don't message her first, or initiate a conversation, but when I see her online, I am so tempted to message her and "see whats up."

mr sticky

Absolutely!!!!


And DAMN RIGHT!!!!!

Don't rub salt in the wound until it heals some more.

It's going to be damn hard for you to be nice without dredging up old feelings. Be firm, and even pissy if you have to be. If you leave a window to your heart open, it will find a way to bleed.

And remember...even IF she was one in a million, in a planet of six billion people, there are still six thousand of her out there!

So, go find her replacement.

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1337haxor

I think some of you guys may be misunderstanding it. This girl never did any wrong, just the other friend did who she associates with. The only problem I had with her (if you can consider it a problem) was that she was giving off a vibe that she wasn't interested in me the way I was in her.
Well, after thinking about and talking to my friends about it, I did break silence. It went pretty damn well too (^_^)
She's under a lot of stress right now because of a scholarship thing she has to do. After shes done we may hang out and do something to help her relax. I'll still be careful just incase; hope for the best but expect the worst.

Thanks for your input guys,
Robert