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Old 02-21-2005, 02:08 PM   #1 (permalink)
Drinking alone

Does anyone think it's a problem to only drink alone?

I never go out in the evenings. I'm not particularly antisocial, I just don't enjoy going out. And I've never enjoyed social drinking.

But during the evenings and nights I spend alone in my room, usually watching some DVDs or reading, I always drink. I'll have a few beers or a couple of glasses of Jack Daniel's. Just enough to get me fairly drunk, never overdoing it.

Sometimes I wonder if this says anything about me. Sometimes I get an incredible feeling of loneliness, but most of the time I think nothing of it. It's just something I enjoy doing to accompany my night's activities.

I sometimes feel like I should be going out and socialising. This was particularly the case when my ex-girlfriend went out with her friends. I felt like I was missing out on something. This was especially strong when one of her male friends took her out drinking alone (She recently dumped me for him so that just enforced the feeling).

So what does everyone think? Drinking alone: a pleasant supplement to an evening/night, or an antisocial, lonely act?
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Old 02-21-2005, 02:26 PM   #2 (permalink)
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So what does everyone think? Drinking alone: a pleasant supplement to an evening/night, or an antisocial, lonely act?
I'd say that depending on the situation, it can be a bit of both... It can also be quite risky for addiction when you do it to temporarily forget your worries or even brood over the loss of your girlfriend to the other, apparently more social guy.

IMO drinking is a bad emotional advisor.
Old 02-21-2005, 02:29 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Hey, it was good enough for George Thorogood. I dunno, society has always taken a suspicious view of folks that prefer their own company. You get labeled with terms like anti-social, loner, outsider and the like. If you are hanging out and drinking alone because you enjoy it then as long as you aren't going on nightly benders and drinking until you pass out I see no harm in it. If on the other hand you are alone because you can't interact with people and are self-medicating with alcohol then there is a problem. If you feel you are missing out on something then maybe you should make a genuine effort to get out more. If after a while you discover you still prefer staying home then do what makes you happy.
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Old 02-21-2005, 02:40 PM   #4 (permalink)
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if you need to drink then its a problem. if you drink to cover something up then its a problem. if you have nothing else better to do and decide to get drunk then i dont see a problem. when you need to get drunk to accompany your nightly activities then its a problem.
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Old 02-21-2005, 02:46 PM   #5 (permalink)
I started drinking in the evenings just because I enjoyed it. But in the last month the ex was treating me really badly and it got so I felt I really needed a drink to ease the pain a little (God, I feel like I'm in a Hank Williams song).

So could this just be a result of the way the girlfriend was treated me, or could it be a dependency that's crept up on me slowly from when I started drinking?
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Old 02-21-2005, 04:38 PM   #6 (permalink)
as long as you can keep it under control - and you know you've got it under control then ya should be cool... i do the same exact thing almost - i go out as often as possible, friday/sat nights when work's not crazy, but the rest of the nights, i come home - get out the jack, and have a drink - for me it's just gotten to be routine, i don't let it get in the way of living in general, that's just how i reassure myself that the day's over, i can unwind a bit and chill out.

on the other hand... when me and my ex broke up, i was a fucking wreck. literally, the first thing i would do when i woke up was get trashed, pass out and do it all over again the next day, after awhile you start to feel the effects of it, and you figure out how much of a waste it is to live your life that way, especially over something so stupid (ya might not see it now, but i promise - you will eventually)

so - as long as it's not a means to an end - you're not doing it to be completely senseless, and you're not doing it to fall asleep - and you're not over-doing it, then you're cool man, just keep it under control

p.s. on different note - smoking LOTS of pot did seem to help quite a bit during shitty times like these, not condoning pot smoking - just a thought...
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Old 02-21-2005, 07:32 PM   #7 (permalink)
Echoing what everyone else has said; I see nothing wrong w/ drinking by yourself while watching movies, etc. Doing it all the time or going to extremes, there could be something wrong.
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Old 02-22-2005, 03:02 AM   #8 (permalink)
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I drink alone, when I'm alone. I also drink when I'm not alone.
Drinking alone doesn't necessarily mean you have an addiction, however, if you're drinking to get 'fairly drunk' or for sleep purposes, or even to shut out some of reality, then i'd say you might have a problem. Something to look at would be when drinking alone, why to the point of drunkenness?
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Old 02-22-2005, 03:42 AM   #9 (permalink)
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I am accused of being boring on a regular basis by friends for staying home a lot.
Frankly, I find the whole bar/club scene intolerably boring, I'd much rather be watching Bride of Frankenstein what can I say. I stay home a lot, given that my interests are largely media or literature, and I actually prefer to watch movies on my own now. My idea of a connection make me a lonely fellow indeed as I find that I cannot relate to other well, and that others find my frustrating and strange. I can fake normality, but I think this just tends to store up a rude shock and doesn't really help me at all. I drink rarely if at all, a maximum of one or two beers or glasses of wine over dinner with company or over a lazy viewing of Empire Strikes Back.
To be frank, I really don't think its a good thing to be drinking daily on your own for no real reason, but then again, caffeine is my drug of choice. I certainly wouldn't say you're in serious serious trouble, the only issue with drinking alone is that there's no third party to give you an objective opinion about your habits.
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Old 02-22-2005, 07:21 AM   #10 (permalink)
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So long as you can stay home and watch a movie WITHOUT feeling the need for a drink. Or you can have a thought for your x-girl without needing a drink than I'd say you're fine.

Personally I don't like how I feel when I get much alcohol in my system when we're out socializing. A few bottles and I begin to feel drowsy and lethargic. When I'm out socializing I love getting out and dancings doing karaoke and chatting up people. I'm active - alcohol slows me down so when I do have a few drinks it's mostly when I'm home alone or with hubby. I like having a hot bath and then a couple glasses of wine, or something. I relax, watch a movie, and then once it's started to wear off I go to bed. It's more a way for me to wind down and relax than anything. I also rarely have anything to drink when my daughter is around - unless she's asleep. I like to be at the top of my game and alcohol hampers that so it's out most of the time.
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Old 02-22-2005, 08:01 AM   #11 (permalink)
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I do the same thing sometimes. I'm far from anti-social, and I do enjoy going out with my friends, but occasionally I just like to sit at home alone and have a couple drinks. Alot of the time it's because my friends are going out to the club, and I'm not much into that whole scene. If they'd be content just going out to a bar I'd go, but that whole dance club thing just isn't me.

The way I see it (as with everyone else it seems) is as long as you aren't overdoing it, or doing it as some sort of self medication, you're cool.
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Old 02-23-2005, 07:06 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by raeanna74
So long as you can stay home and watch a movie WITHOUT feeling the need for a drink.
I think this is very important.

Try going an evening without drinking while you read or watch DVDs. If you find that you get nervous, anxious or restless or struggle to go to sleep afterwards, then you might have a problem.

It's one thing to have a drink every evening - it's another to get drunk (even slightly drunk) every evening.

Good luck!
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Old 02-23-2005, 07:22 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Drinking is always a good thing.. unless you're thinking about killing someone or something. I drink with people, by myself, with my dog it doesn't matter to me. Just keep it cool and try not to become an alcoholic heh
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Old 02-23-2005, 08:36 AM   #14 (permalink)
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My Dad was an alcoholic, and it eventually killed him. Now that I live alone, I have a full cabinet of alcohol - gifts and whatnot - but I never drink alone. Even when it comes to wines, I'd much rather invite someone over, than have a go by myself. The reason for this is that, as far as I see it, drinking alone is a good way to get started into alcoholism. I'm not sure I would become an alcoholic this way, but I'm not in a hurry to find out.

As far as personal issues and alcohol... You know when people are cold, and they tend to drink a few shots of alcohol to feel warm? Sometimes they take it too far, get drunk, and die because of the low temperature, even though they felt warm. And it's exactly like that.
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Old 02-23-2005, 08:51 AM   #15 (permalink)
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I drink alone all the time... When I travel, I am usually by myself and will have a cocktail in the hotel bar and then wine with my meal.

When I am home I will often fix a drink when I get home... I like the taste and it takes the edge off my day... That said, it's rare that I have two drinks.
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Old 02-23-2005, 08:52 AM   #16 (permalink)
Thanks for all the advice. I've been the last few nights without a drink and don't feel too bad, but I do keep thinking about going to get a drink. Not so much a craving as a habit maybe. I think I'll just stop drinking for a while to be safe
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Old 02-24-2005, 06:41 AM   #17 (permalink)
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I work nights, not much going on in the bars at 7am...so i've kind of developed into an ''anti-social'' drinker.

I gotta agree, if u think u need, u might want to think again about drinking. Then drink.
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Old 02-24-2005, 01:11 PM   #18 (permalink)
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I would imagine that it will hit critical mass when you are avoiding doing other things or planning on and looking forward to getting drunk by yourself. If you are just sitting around by yourself and fancy a nip than I wouldn't call it a problem unless it turns into everyday.

I actually go to bars quite often by myself, even ones I have never been before.
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Old 02-24-2005, 07:45 PM   #19 (permalink)
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I too tend to stay at home a lot but I often have people over. Here's my thing: If I have people over, we'll drink a few beers, maybe pack a bowl of pot and pass it around. But other nights, I'll smoke two or three bowls by myself, get extremely highly stoned and watch movies and eat food. Maybe I'll have a beer. Maybe.

Yeah, I do look forward to smoking a lot of pot and/or drinking beers. But I try to only smoke pot 2-3 times a week, same goes with alcohol. I actually haven't had a beer in a week. Sometimes I'll go months without alcohol. My mother died of liver cancer so I'm a little wary about drinking.
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Old 03-07-2005, 11:07 AM   #20 (permalink)
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I think it is bad to drink alone. What is the joy of drinking alone? I prefer drinking socially with other buddies so they can keep me in line....or watch out for me.
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Old 03-07-2005, 08:25 PM   #21 (permalink)
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I certainly wouldn't think that drinking alone is a problem. I like the flavor of scotch, bourbon, red wine, beer, etc. & often enjoy those alone. Getting drunk alone, though... I suppose I would generally associate "fairly drunk" with "overdoing it". But then again I would define "fairly drunk" with ofensive gibber-jabber speak, vomit, hours of your life erased from your memory... you get the picture. If you do this sort of thing alone... how will anybody ever know how funny you think you are?
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Old 03-09-2005, 10:13 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Doing it isn't the problem. Not being able to not do it is.
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Old 03-13-2005, 04:20 PM   #23 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by MrSelfDestruct
Doing it isn't the problem. Not being able to not do it is.

Very well put. I drink alone sometimes, and I don't think it's wrong. There's just some nights when I'd rather ease my mind (and my wallet) and stay home and chill watching movies or some other relaxing activity by myself and having a few drinks. I rarely consume enough to be drunk though, if I start to feel that buzz coming on generally I stop. But that's just me.
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Old 03-13-2005, 05:22 PM   #24 (permalink)
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Old 03-13-2005, 09:30 PM   #25 (permalink)
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I avoid it because doing it would make me feel bad about myself (doing it to the extent that I'm getting tipsy). When I'm by myself I do like to experiment with mixes so I have something new to drink and for my friends to try out when they come over though, or sometimes because I just like the taste. That's only one or maybe two drinks in a night if I'm by myself though.
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Old 03-19-2005, 10:57 AM   #26 (permalink)
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Nah, nothin at all wrong w/ drinking alone.

I often fire up World of Warcraft and get a bit buzzed.

I'm a fine individual - level headed, smart about things like this.

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Old 03-19-2005, 09:12 PM   #27 (permalink)
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i'd say that its perfectly fine drinking alone. i dont, but i really dont see a problem with it. i could see someone sitting back and watching a basketball game or chilling on the computer with a beer or two.

BUT.....if you are gettind drunk alone, well then that's a problem.
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Old 04-01-2005, 11:00 PM   #28 (permalink)
No drinking alone isnt a bad thing
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Old 04-02-2005, 08:19 AM   #29 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by MrSelfDestruct
Doing it isn't the problem. Not being able to not do it is.
Now that's good, simple advice! I just enjoy a drink or two, regardless of alone or with someone else. Have for many years. Fortunately, I don't have an addictive personality. If I did or drank to medicate problems, it might pose a problem.

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Old 04-03-2005, 03:42 AM   #30 (permalink)
people probably say that you should drink with others simply because it makes you want to be social, and thats probably why you feel alone. i'm really antisocial, but when i drink, i realyl want to talk to people. i think most drugs are better when you do them with others, in my experience being drunk with a friend always inspires really interesting conversation.


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