lilrosie

Everytime I have sex I can't have an orgasm. But if I masturbate i'll orgasm with no problem. I really want to feel an orgasm while i'm having sex. What can I do to correct this....any advice?

Deltona Couple

Jump my case if I am sounding crass in asking this fellow TFPers, but it might help us a little bit to know some more information. Are you male or female? Is this something new, or has it been occuring all your life? What age GROUP are you in (not asking exact age here) have you been with this partner for a short time, or long time?...Thats a few of the questions I would like answered before I throw in my $.02 worth!....thanx

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Lady Sage

Many females have problems achieving orgasm with sex. Trick is to have your partner get you off FIRST and sex is then SO much better.

SugahBritches

I'm with Deltona. A little more info please.

Can I ask a question? Have you have a baby? Some women don't achieve orgasms until after the first child. However, they can enjoy sex.

lukethebandgeek

Apparently intercourse (i'm assuming you are female, and when you refer to sex, you refer to male/female sexual intercourse) isn't the best way for a female to orgasm in some positions. Try being on top, that should give you some more control. Also, don't be afraid use your hands, or ask your partner to use hands. Realize though that vaginal intecourse is not the be all end all sexual activity. There are many different ways to achieve orgasm that are no better or worse than vaginal intercourse.
Above all, communication seems to be the key. Let your partner know exactly what turns you on and what rubs you the wrong way.

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Philangicality

You are thinking too much about your partner's pleasure. It is ok to be selfish during sex. Think about yourself and what you want that makes you feel good.

little_tippler

I think maybe a search before posting would be some good advice...there have been quite a few threads on this topic in several forums here.

But, that aside, I think a vast number of women have this difficulty you're talking of and I think it has to do with how comfortable you are with yourself, and exposing yourself, how attentive and patient your partner is, and your own imagination. If you can masturbate yourself to orgasm, why don't you try doing that while you're with your partner? It's worth a try surely. Ultimately it might never happen, at least vaginally. Try to find other ways of enjyoment, the more focused you are on this difficulty, the more it becomes a huge and important problem.

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We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

Fernando Pessoa, 1918

savvypup

I usually have to stimulate my clit whilst having sex.It takes me AGES to cum, unless there's finger or tongue action happening. Just all the more sensitive.

If you want to feel yourself clamp around your partner, try a little manual stimulation - fantastic on a reverse straddle!

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ciao bella!

Glory's Sun

I'm a lucky one. My wife has no problem with orgasm anymore and she's a squirter.

She used to have problems but that was because she was letting her mind get the best of her. She was scared to orgasm or she'd be stressed etc. Most of the time it's guys who have that problem. Anyway, the best advice I can give you and I'm going to assume you are female, is to not think about things so much. Just enjoy the feeling. Try different positions. Many women have a hard time reaching orgasm in the standard missionary position. Try variations of you being on top. You can control and make it hit the spot when you want.

Deltona Couple

OK, maybe It has been more than 8 hours since I have had sex, but somehow this quote is going to reside in my memory forever....lol... BOING!

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