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cierah · 10-12-2006, 05:05 PM

So, I have never had any kind of strong desire to have 'pillow talk' (you know the barring of the souls after sex). Sometimes I like to lie close to him and sometimes I don't even care/want him to touch me. I am usually fine with him going to sleep after. Sometimes a few 'i love you's' or whatnot are exchanged.

I just thought I'd pose the question of 'do you enjoy/need pillow talk? Do you like it? Could you do without it? Do you think the need for pillow talk is more prelevant with a certain sex or not?'

Jozrael · 10-12-2006, 05:17 PM

I'm not quite qualified to answer this, being that I'm quite a virgin, but when my gf and I are done with our physicality we both definitely enjoy the feeling of closeness, holding each other, telling each other how we feel, and just talking about life.

So, in answer to your questions: yes, I enjoy pillow talk. No, I could live without it and thus I don't -need- it, but I really enjoy it to the point where I'd be sad if we did just disconnect afterwards.

I think stereotypically girls need more pillow talk afterwards.

Tamerlain · 10-12-2006, 06:21 PM

I like talking in bed. Doesn't have to be after sex though. Sometimes before, sometimes after - sometimes sex isn't even involved. But specifically after sex? Sure, I like it. Sometimes we talk about our feelings, sometimes we talk about how good the sex was... there's not really a limit to what we talk about.

So yes, I like pillow talk.

-Tamerlain

Lady Sage · 10-12-2006, 06:32 PM

If I am enjoying the afterglow he best hush up so I can enjoy it in peace and slip on off to sleep. Other times sure why not? Mostly though lemme roll over and go to sleep or cuddle with me til I go to sleep.

I know, not your normal woman eh?

Toaster126 · 10-12-2006, 07:58 PM

Girls are lucky to get me in a cuddling mood, let alone a let's have pillow talk mood. Different strokes, I guess.

Seaver · 10-12-2006, 08:18 PM

I love to stay close to my girl afterwards. Unlike most guys sex wakes me up, it never puts me to sleep. My favorite is to have her cuddle up in my arm/shoulder/chest area as I lay on my back (spooning's good, but her hair itches my face). We usually pop on the tv for a bit and watch it together until I'm good to go again.

Lady Sage · 10-12-2006, 08:35 PM

Pan is the same way! Getting off wakes him up so he usually goes off to play a game of video football while I crash.

Yes I love that thoughtful man of mine

analog · 10-13-2006, 12:25 AM

Having sex, even quickie sex, makes me wide awake and intensely, voraciously hungry. I have had a girlfriend or two who enjoyed chatting after sex, and I've had one who specifically enjoyed the silence, just lying there next to me or being held. Talking took away from the moment, she said.

ShaniFaye · 10-13-2006, 03:13 AM

It depends on what kind of sex we've had and how many times I got off...Dave is the only man ever to give me multiples and its not an every time occurance. When it does happen, I dont want him touching me or talking to me afterward lol

If its "fucking" then I dont really have the desire to talk afterwards, if its the slow kind of "we've had hours of foreplay" kinda sex then yeah...afterwards we talk mushy and all that stuff

healer · 10-13-2006, 07:19 AM

I'm all for the pillow talk. But it all depends on the mood - both the mood of the sex we just had and the mood we're both in afterwards. Sometimes you just wanna lie there and be quiet. Other times you just can't help but to reminisce on how great it was - sort of a post-coital summary.

snowy · 10-13-2006, 10:20 AM

We don't really pillow talk after sex. We usually go to sleep, haha. Some other nights, non-sex nights, we stay up late and talk after the lights have gone out, and cuddle. I love that.

cierah · 10-13-2006, 10:26 AM

I've been thinking about this some more and I've come up with something.
We aren't close because we have sex.
We don't have sex because we are close.
We have sex.
We are close.
The two are different and almost non-related and I guess that's why we don't do pillow talk. Sometimes it just happens that the close-cutest talk occurs after sex, but that's a coincidence more than anything.

Thanks for all the replies. There are really some things to think about with this topic.

SugahBritches · 10-13-2006, 07:30 PM

Uuummm............

I'll comment just for the fact that there are probably not many of us folks that have been married longer than 26 yrs that can actually have SEX and TALK to each other!

Sometimes we do, and sometimes we don't. Just occording to when and what is going on at the time. But, since we have been married a while, we can talk and communicate without having sex....nor do we feel like we have to HAVE sex to communicate! LOL!

Now............I maybe wrong..........but THAT might be what is called some "pillow" talkin'. Lying in bed whether you have had sex or not!!!!

Oh carry on! What the heck do I know!!!!???? Heh.

Montanas Heart · 10-14-2006, 04:00 PM

Im kind of like Shani Faye, it depends on the type of sex... if it was fast and furious and hot and sweaty then just let me be and let me sleep. If it was slow and passionate and sweet and mushy and all that then yes lets talk and tell each other all kinds of sweet lovey dovey things...keep the moment going for as long as we can... Although there is something to be said for saying WOW that was AWESOME after one hell of session where the sheets are all tangled and youre so sweaty that you need a shower to feel human again... sometimes you just gotta say something about a session like that... after you catch your breath of course hee hee....

10-12-2006, 05:05 PM	#1 (permalink)
cierah Crazy Location: Canada	pillow talk?? So, I have never had any kind of strong desire to have 'pillow talk' (you know the barring of the souls after sex). Sometimes I like to lie close to him and sometimes I don't even care/want him to touch me. I am usually fine with him going to sleep after. Sometimes a few 'i love you's' or whatnot are exchanged. I just thought I'd pose the question of 'do you enjoy/need pillow talk? Do you like it? Could you do without it? Do you think the need for pillow talk is more prelevant with a certain sex or not?' __________________ "You can close your eyes to reality but not to memories" -Stainslaw J. Lec

10-12-2006, 06:21 PM	#3 (permalink)
Tamerlain Insane Location: Victoria	I like talking in bed. Doesn't have to be after sex though. Sometimes before, sometimes after - sometimes sex isn't even involved. But specifically after sex? Sure, I like it. Sometimes we talk about our feelings, sometimes we talk about how good the sex was... there's not really a limit to what we talk about. So yes, I like pillow talk. -Tamerlain __________________ I never let school interfere with my education.

10-12-2006, 06:32 PM	#4 (permalink)
Lady Sage Mistress of Mayhem Location: Canton, Ohio	If I am enjoying the afterglow he best hush up so I can enjoy it in peace and slip on off to sleep. Other times sure why not? Mostly though lemme roll over and go to sleep or cuddle with me til I go to sleep. I know, not your normal woman eh? __________________ If only closed minds came with closed mouths. Minds are like parachutes, they function best when open. It`s Easier to Change a Condom Than a Diaper Yes, the rumors are true... I actually AM a Witch.

10-12-2006, 07:58 PM	#5 (permalink)
Toaster126 Extreme moderation Location: Kansas City, yo.	Girls are lucky to get me in a cuddling mood, let alone a let's have pillow talk mood. Different strokes, I guess. __________________ "The question isn't who is going to let me, it's who is going to stop me." (Ayn Rand) "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers." (M. Scott Peck)

10-12-2006, 08:18 PM	#6 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	I love to stay close to my girl afterwards. Unlike most guys sex wakes me up, it never puts me to sleep. My favorite is to have her cuddle up in my arm/shoulder/chest area as I lay on my back (spooning's good, but her hair itches my face). We usually pop on the tv for a bit and watch it together until I'm good to go again. __________________ "Smite the rocks with the rod of knowledge, and fountains of unstinted wealth will gush forth." - Ashbel Smith as he laid the first cornerstone of the University of Texas

10-12-2006, 05:17 PM	#2 (permalink)
Jozrael Junkie	I'm not quite qualified to answer this, being that I'm quite a virgin, but when my gf and I are done with our physicality we both definitely enjoy the feeling of closeness, holding each other, telling each other how we feel, and just talking about life. So, in answer to your questions: yes, I enjoy pillow talk. No, I could live without it and thus I don't -need- it, but I really enjoy it to the point where I'd be sad if we did just disconnect afterwards. I think stereotypically girls need more pillow talk afterwards.

10-12-2006, 08:35 PM	#7 (permalink)
Lady Sage Mistress of Mayhem Location: Canton, Ohio	Pan is the same way! Getting off wakes him up so he usually goes off to play a game of video football while I crash. Yes I love that thoughtful man of mine __________________ If only closed minds came with closed mouths. Minds are like parachutes, they function best when open. It`s Easier to Change a Condom Than a Diaper Yes, the rumors are true... I actually AM a Witch.

10-13-2006, 12:25 AM	#8 (permalink)
analog Banned	Having sex, even quickie sex, makes me wide awake and intensely, voraciously hungry. I have had a girlfriend or two who enjoyed chatting after sex, and I've had one who specifically enjoyed the silence, just lying there next to me or being held. Talking took away from the moment, she said.

10-13-2006, 03:13 AM	#9 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	It depends on what kind of sex we've had and how many times I got off...Dave is the only man ever to give me multiples and its not an every time occurance. When it does happen, I dont want him touching me or talking to me afterward lol If its "fucking" then I dont really have the desire to talk afterwards, if its the slow kind of "we've had hours of foreplay" kinda sex then yeah...afterwards we talk mushy and all that stuff __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

10-13-2006, 10:20 AM	#11 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	We don't really pillow talk after sex. We usually go to sleep, haha. Some other nights, non-sex nights, we stay up late and talk after the lights have gone out, and cuddle. I love that. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

10-13-2006, 10:26 AM	#12 (permalink)
cierah Crazy Location: Canada	I've been thinking about this some more and I've come up with something. We aren't close because we have sex. We don't have sex because we are close. We have sex. We are close. The two are different and almost non-related and I guess that's why we don't do pillow talk. Sometimes it just happens that the close-cutest talk occurs after sex, but that's a coincidence more than anything. Thanks for all the replies. There are really some things to think about with this topic. __________________ "You can close your eyes to reality but not to memories" -Stainslaw J. Lec

10-13-2006, 07:30 PM	#13 (permalink)
SugahBritches Insane	Uuummm............ I'll comment just for the fact that there are probably not many of us folks that have been married longer than 26 yrs that can actually have SEX and TALK to each other! Sometimes we do, and sometimes we don't. Just occording to when and what is going on at the time. But, since we have been married a while, we can talk and communicate without having sex....nor do we feel like we have to HAVE sex to communicate! LOL! Now............I maybe wrong..........but THAT might be what is called some "pillow" talkin'. Lying in bed whether you have had sex or not!!!! Oh carry on! What the heck do I know!!!!???? Heh.

10-14-2006, 04:00 PM	#14 (permalink)
Montanas Heart Upright Location: In the middle of Montana	Im kind of like Shani Faye, it depends on the type of sex... if it was fast and furious and hot and sweaty then just let me be and let me sleep. If it was slow and passionate and sweet and mushy and all that then yes lets talk and tell each other all kinds of sweet lovey dovey things...keep the moment going for as long as we can... Although there is something to be said for saying WOW that was AWESOME after one hell of session where the sheets are all tangled and youre so sweaty that you need a shower to feel human again... sometimes you just gotta say something about a session like that... after you catch your breath of course hee hee....