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Old 01-16-2008, 11:26 AM   #1 (permalink)
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So I was on a voyeurism web site and find some pictures of my friend's wife, obviously taken without her knowledge. She was in a changing room, removing her bathing suit. I know it's her for sure because of a couple of some distinctive beauty marks. There's no way my friend took posted these pics, he is too straight laced for that kind of thing. Now that I've spent a few days jacking off to pics of his naked wife, my question is should I tell my buddy I discovered them so maybe he can do something about it? On the flip side, he's going to know that I've seen his wife's tits and pussy, and I fear that could strain our relationship.
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Old 01-16-2008, 11:32 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I call bullshit.


Sorry. But I do.
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Old 01-16-2008, 11:37 AM   #3 (permalink)
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...seen his wife's tits and pussy, and I fear that could strain our relationship.
There's a human being attached to those things, ya know.
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Old 01-16-2008, 11:42 AM   #4 (permalink)
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There's a human being attached to those things, ya know.

My guess is that this guy doesn't care.


He jerked off to the pics for a few days before he went "Hmm... maybe I should tell my friend about these... "


Not my idea of a guy that respects women.
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Old 01-16-2008, 12:32 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Download the pictures before you tell him, just in case.
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Old 01-16-2008, 12:55 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I always wondered how I'd handle being in your situation.

Not an easy decision. How about letting the wife know you saw her? Maybe you could convince her to let him know.

Or maybe he does know and he's not as straight as you think? I have a friend that has an extremely dry professional persona, a very likeable but private person with his friends, but he's very kinky and wicked in his very private life.
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Old 01-16-2008, 01:09 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I call bullshit.


Sorry. But I do.
Ditto

Only I'm not sorry.
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Old 01-16-2008, 01:11 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Ditto

Only I'm not sorry.

I'm not either. I just said it to be nice.
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Old 01-16-2008, 02:35 PM   #9 (permalink)
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And of course all of the typical guys are pessimistic, go figure. You ever think the guy might really need some advice instead of you guys calling bull shit on him. If you're not going to help, don't respond.

I would suggest just telling the guy straight up what you found and that if it was your wife, you would like to know if something happened.

Worst case he gets mad at you for seeing his wife naked. Of course if you don't tell him, the world goes on seeing his wife naked without him even knowing about it.
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Old 01-16-2008, 02:44 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Tell him.

If its true, then surely the wife can identify the store, and perhaps the info can be used to nab a sexual predator, disgruntled employee, etc.
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Old 01-16-2008, 02:55 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Unfortunately, the asshole brigade has already attacked so there goes any chance of the guy feeling welcome or comfortable about starting discussions here.

Who cares if he's serious or not...just answer like it is and move on.

I wouldn't say anything. It would definitely strain the relationship and cause all sorts of shit between him and his wife.
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Old 01-16-2008, 03:30 PM   #12 (permalink)
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I think that I would tell him. Just say you found some pictures that look like his wife.
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Old 01-16-2008, 04:26 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I'd say tell her. She should know. Who knows, maybe she already knows. If she doesn't, she does deserve to though. Just don't let her know you whacked off to the pictures.
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Old 01-16-2008, 04:46 PM   #14 (permalink)
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I say use a phony email and send him the link....entitle it "Is this your wife?"
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Old 01-16-2008, 04:51 PM   #15 (permalink)
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And of course all of the typical guys are pessimistic, go figure. You ever think the guy might really need some advice instead of you guys calling bull shit on him. If you're not going to help, don't respond.
No because its kind of a stupid question and its this guys only post. I reserve the right to call bullshit on any post as such.
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Old 01-16-2008, 05:35 PM   #16 (permalink)
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No because its kind of a stupid question and its this guys only post. I reserve the right to call bullshit on any post as such.
Why would you call it a stupid question? I think it's a great question that encompasses issues of ethics, privacy, friendship and more.

I haven't seen you respond to the stupid question.

It's only a question. Maybe the OP is shy.
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Old 01-16-2008, 07:34 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Tell him, but leave out the part about you jacking off to pictures of his wife for a few days before deciding to him. Unless, of course, you really want to tell him that.
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Old 01-16-2008, 07:46 PM   #18 (permalink)
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I say use a phony email and send him the link....entitle it "Is this your wife?"
That seems like a Really Bad Idea. Now, not only does this guy know that his wife is naked online, but Someone He Knows knows about it. He's going to look at everyone he knows and think "Is *that* the guy who's seen my wife naked on the internet?"

Better to have one guy that he knows about, and who comes to him as a concerned friend. Of course, it will still be uncomfortable as hell (please, don't tell him you jerked off to the pictures...), and he may never speak to you again.

What would you want him to do if it were your wife? Do that.
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Old 01-16-2008, 10:08 PM   #19 (permalink)
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I'm gonna have to side with the people who are upset that bullshit was called. I have actually been the subject of a thread where the majority opinion was that the story was bullshit. It wasn't appropriate for me to be on tilted then so I only learned of it later, needless to say that situation has cleared up and I am here to stay.

Tell your buddy, cause I am sure you would want to know. For the love of whatever God you acknowledge however don't bring up the wacking off! On second thought why did you? Honestly if I saw a pic of my friends wife online I would drop the dick pick up the phone and tell the guy we needed to talk ASAP. I wouldn't beat off again for at least a week, purely out of feeling like I just walked into a good friends bedroom accidentally with my dick in my hand.

Tell him, be completely honest until he asks if you beat off to a video of his wife, I give you permission to lie like a devil on that topic.

And if it ever happens again do the right thing and give up on the date with palm-ala and tell him right away.
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Old 01-16-2008, 10:23 PM   #20 (permalink)
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No because its kind of a stupid question and its this guys only post. I reserve the right to call bullshit on any post as such.

That's your bloody opinion, so keep it to yourself. I'm tired of reading your intimidating post, it's rude and your opinion doesn't rule the board. Call it bull shit in your head, not to the new poster. You're part of the problem new people have with getting involved into the forums, making them feel dumb for questions. If I had read some responses of your in my posts it would certainly have made me less confident to even ask. Keep it to your damn self!

Back to the OP.
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Old 01-16-2008, 11:07 PM   #21 (permalink)
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You have to tell your friend, straight up, man to man. If you don't... well that makes you a dickhead.

On the personal note, I think you are a putz, only because you call him a friend and seem to value how often you can crack a beer open with him over his right to privacy and sanctity. When strange shit goes down, I put myself in the position of my friend and think how would they react with this knowledge? Not their reaction to me, but what would they have to do. "He'd have to show his girl to fix this shit..." So I'd tell him.

Now then, did you know it was her before you started cranking one out? Based on the order you phrased the original post... it sounds like, "Yeah I did." If this is the case, then you are a scum bag, a rung below the creep that took these pictures to begin with. And I think you should tell your friend, "I cranked it to the pictures for a few days before telling you." Say I'm wrong.
  • Instead of voyeurism:
    • Get a girlfriend you trust
    • take some money shots of her when she doesn't know it
    • show her the pictures
    • have angry sex.
  • Not complicated. And don't post them online unless she is down with it.
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Old 01-17-2008, 05:36 AM   #22 (permalink)
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If he was really a friend, you would have told him immediately. Sitting on the information for a few days tells me that you're probably more interested in boning his wife than hanging out with him.

And for the record, I too think that this is a bullshit story. And ghoastgirl1, Ustwo didn't break any rules by saying so. You, on the other hand, are perliously close to flaming.
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Old 01-17-2008, 06:17 AM   #23 (permalink)
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Why would you call it a stupid question? I think it's a great question that encompasses issues of ethics, privacy, friendship and more.

I haven't seen you respond to the stupid question.

It's only a question. Maybe the OP is shy.
You are right its not a stupid question per say. The manner it was written though was very juvenile and I'm going with fake.

Plus its silly not knowing what his friend is like. If he is the kinda friend you can talk to just tell him, if not, anonymous email, and if you think he is the type that would just go ape shit don't tell him.
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Old 01-17-2008, 10:52 AM   #24 (permalink)
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That's your bloody opinion, so keep it to yourself. I'm tired of reading your intimidating post, it's rude and your opinion doesn't rule the board. Call it bull shit in your head, not to the new poster. You're part of the problem new people have with getting involved into the forums, making them feel dumb for questions. If I had read some responses of your in my posts it would certainly have made me less confident to even ask. Keep it to your damn self!

Back to the OP.

It's not only his opinion. It's my opinion too.


Wanna talk shit to me too?



It's the guys only post. I'm sorry you believe everything you read but it's bullshit. If he was really concerned he would have posted to defend himself. But he didn't He posted something stupid and now he's off jerking off to the Titty Board.
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Old 01-17-2008, 06:14 PM   #25 (permalink)
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Well, I took the advice of many on this thread and told my friend about the pics. His wife couldn't have been better about it, thanking me for bringing it to their attention so they can perhaps address the issue with the web site. But my friend called back later and was pissed at me. He had somehow rationalized this thing was partly my fault, because if I wasn't "trolling those porn sites" I would have never seen the pictures of his wife "exposed." The conversation got heated, with him giving me a lesson on morality. And he doesn't know if he can get over the fact I saw his wife's "private parts." I kept quiet for most of his rant, but finally reached my breaking point, blurted out something like "It's great that Annie's drapes don't match the carpeting," and hung up. Something tells me it will be awhile before we talk again. Shit.
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Old 01-17-2008, 06:51 PM   #26 (permalink)
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Well, I took the advice of many on this thread and told my friend about the pics. His wife couldn't have been better about it, thanking me for bringing it to their attention so they can perhaps address the issue with the web site. But my friend called back later and was pissed at me. He had somehow rationalized this thing was partly my fault, because if I wasn't "trolling those porn sites" I would have never seen the pictures of his wife "exposed." The conversation got heated, with him giving me a lesson on morality. And he doesn't know if he can get over the fact I saw his wife's "private parts." I kept quiet for most of his rant, but finally reached my breaking point, blurted out something like "It's great that Annie's drapes don't match the carpeting," and hung up. Something tells me it will be awhile before we talk again. Shit.
Smooth move, ace.

Seriously, aside from the little verbal blunder there, it sounds like you did the best you could given the situation. Unless he just wants to be holier than though about you looking at pr0n, he should recognize that you did him a favor, and the best you could given the circumstances.
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Old 01-17-2008, 07:50 PM   #27 (permalink)
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haaahahaha oh fuck, this needs to be in the hall of fame.

WK and Ustwo, I agree that this seems mostly bullshit.

and yeah as for the followup.... man, fuck that guy.
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Old 01-17-2008, 08:13 PM   #28 (permalink)
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Well, the fact that the guy jacked off to pictures of his friend's wife then came somewhere to ask what he should do about it makes me a little wary about his legitimacy, too.
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Old 01-18-2008, 10:20 AM   #29 (permalink)
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And the guy still doesn't defend himself...
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Old 01-18-2008, 11:08 AM   #30 (permalink)
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Old 01-18-2008, 05:10 PM   #31 (permalink)
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While this may be true, this reminds me too much of the thread with the guy who like Brown Showers...
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Old 01-18-2008, 08:07 PM   #32 (permalink)
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This may be BS, but let's turn it into useful TFP conversation....

The scenario is as described in the OP, minus the whacking off. You discover a friend's wife on a random pr0n site. You know it's her. What do you do?
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Old 01-19-2008, 01:35 AM   #33 (permalink)
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This may be BS, but let's turn it into useful TFP conversation....

The scenario is as described in the OP, minus the whacking off. You discover a friend's wife on a random pr0n site. You know it's her. What do you do?
Tell your friend or tell his wife immediately. It might be better going to the wife directly. Then she doesn't have to be suspicious that her husband is looking at porn, only to stumble on the woman he should have been getting hot from the whole time.
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Old 01-29-2008, 04:57 PM   #34 (permalink)
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What if the wife posted the pics herself?
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Old 01-29-2008, 09:54 PM   #35 (permalink)
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Another good reason to tell the wife, if they are legit and her thing then you are leaving the problems between them instead of getting in the middle. Honesty does not preclude discretion.
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Old 01-30-2008, 12:48 AM   #36 (permalink)
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I'm surprised nobody else has said this, but exactly why would the so called "friend" get mad? It would seem to me that you would be doing him/his wife a favor by allowing them the chance to protect her privacy from the rest of the world, especially if it was without her permission

Plus, if they could prove which store exploited her, then they could likely sue for some good money if they so chose...

Sure, you saw his wife's private parts, but I just think the favor your doing them would outweigh this simple fact - although I would agree that going to the wife would have been better
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I'm surprised nobody else has said this, but exactly why would the so called "friend" get mad? It would seem to me that you would be doing him/his wife a favor by allowing them the chance to protect her privacy from the rest of the world, especially if it was without her permission
It is just one of those damned-if-do situations where every choice will be the wrong one. First, your friend will have all sorts of misplaced anger at the fact that it happened, which will just spill into anger towards you since you were the one that found it. Second, it will put a damper on the friendship only because the knew "knowledge" you have of his girl.
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It is just one of those damned-if-do situations where every choice will be the wrong one. First, your friend will have all sorts of misplaced anger at the fact that it happened, which will just spill into anger towards you since you were the one that found it. Second, it will put a damper on the friendship only because the knew "knowledge" you have of his girl.
yea... sadly, your right - gotta love society
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Old 01-30-2008, 01:00 PM   #39 (permalink)
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sparky, do you get off on telling fiction?
We already beat this. Now we are treating it as if it were real in case this actually happens.
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