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Old 11-14-2010, 01:34 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Mutual Masturbation

So, a little background first. My wife has never masterbated before a few months ago. She has only done it twice. We bought a small vibrator for her a while back but she didn't like it much when I used it on her. I travel on occasion for work and about a month or two ago she decided to try it. She was able to orgasm but says it wasn't as intense as when I get her off. Well, I'm currently out of town(been gone since 10/31/10)and I had her text me some naked pics. She pulled out the vibe and sent a few pictures. She then proceeded to get herself off, being all worked up over the experience. I told her how much I liked the idea of her masturbating and we discussed watching each other masturbate at the same time when I finally get home.

So, my question is:
have any of you done this with your partner?
any suggestions on how to proceed?
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Old 11-14-2010, 01:48 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Tell her you want to watch her. Caress her, love her and look at her longingly to encourage her, since she's likely shy about it. Help her along if she seems to feel awkward about it and eventually she'll likely get into it, especially when she sees how excited you get. Watching each others' faces is awesome!

The first couple of times I did this, I was totally shy about it and it felt forced. But before long, I got over it. Now, just thinking about mutually masturbating makes me want to call someone!
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Old 11-14-2010, 02:01 PM   #3 (permalink)
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we've discussed it and definately want to try it. I guess what I'm asking is the technique so to speak. Sit or lay on opposite ends of the bed so we can see eachother better? should we just lay side by side?
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Old 11-14-2010, 02:22 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I don't think it matters. Whatever feels most natural for the two of you.

My last long-term used to start by standing right next to me lying down on the bed. Definitely my favorite because I could watch his face and his excitement at the same time. In the bed, side by side, also works quite well.

Opposite ends of the bed sounds more voyeuristic than intimate. Make sure however you do it that you're physically close, so you can touch one another. Don't over-plan. You may find that you want to help her finish, add oral, who knows! Relax and enjoy and don't get caught up in the details. Just let them happen.
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Old 11-14-2010, 02:28 PM   #5 (permalink)
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yea, I tend to over think things, and over plan. I get a picture in my head of what I want, and it doesn't always turn out that way. I've got a few more days till I get home, so I'll try not to think too much about it. We'll see what happens!!
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Old 11-14-2010, 02:46 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Remember now, I don't know either of you. While you may be excited about it, it's possible she may want to try it for you, but could be nervous about your expectations. Keep that in mind and focus on what makes her comfortable. Before long, you can tell her about the picture in your head and she'll be more than willing and excited to oblige you.
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Old 11-14-2010, 02:53 PM   #7 (permalink)
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thanks for the advice.
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Old 11-14-2010, 04:15 PM   #8 (permalink)
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We do this all the time. We usually lay side-by-side while we do it. Sometimes we watch porn together while we do it. Sometimes I give him a BJ while I masturbate, and we switch off between marathon BJ session and masturbation. Definitely one of my favorites
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Old 11-14-2010, 04:23 PM   #9 (permalink)
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that's one of the things that got me us interested in mutual masterbation. She came to stay with me last weekend since I've been away for over 2 weeks on business. While giving me a BJ she started playing with herself to get wet. I lost my mind when I seen her doing this. That's what got us talking about it in the first place.
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Old 11-14-2010, 04:32 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I wish I could find the video I saw recently on xhamster. A woman was masturbating while her SO was between her legs filing it. Just as she was about to come he put two fingers in her. It was hot.
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Old 11-16-2010, 08:41 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Sometimes we watch porn together while we do it. Sometimes I give him a BJ while I masturbate, and we switch off between marathon BJ session and masturbation. Definitely one of my favorites
I definitely want to play this stuff. Just dont know where to start and how to start...
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Old 11-16-2010, 12:06 PM   #12 (permalink)
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I've always found that kind of an erotic fantasy too. I have tried it with a few partners but the problem is I'm sitting right next to somebody who I think is sickeningly hot and after a few minutes I find that there are just to many tempting places to put my cock besides my own fist and it falls apart from there. For me it seems more like a foreplay technique then the setting for an entire session.

A few techniques you could try would be to gently guide her in that direction during foreplay, you move your hand to take care of yourself, push her hand to do the same and see if things take off from there. It could be a good way to break the ice for the first time.

How about just starting on your own? If the mood is striking you go to town and see if she follows. Knowing its a fantasy of yours it would be a pretty hard clue to miss.

Bring it up out of the blue. "Hey you wanna? If you don't like it we can always stop." No pressure and the adventure is there is she wants it, seems kind of win/win to me.
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Old 11-20-2010, 06:30 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I'm a regular participant. There is something very intimate about sharing how you manipulate yourself with another person; a happy ending is guaranteed!

My favorite way to proceed would be at the other person's command. Tell your wife what you want her to do to herself and how incredible it is to watch.

Now, Tell me....how does one "only masterbate twice" in one's life?
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Old 11-20-2010, 08:20 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Yeah, I call bullshit on the "she's only masturbated twice" as much as the "my guy doesn't look at porn" thing.

Unless TFP really is home to the all the sexual .01%ers out there, these types of lines are a crock of crap.
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Old 11-21-2010, 07:09 AM   #15 (permalink)
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God, I love to watch my wife masturbate. I certainly have to get her in the right mood, however.

Here's a method I used early on in our relationship. I had her lay her hand on top of mine, and had her move my fingers to masturbate herself. That way, I could also learn what kind of pressure she prefers at different times through the session. I would otherwise have had no idea she wanted that much pressure at the end.
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Old 11-21-2010, 08:47 AM   #16 (permalink)
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You can experiment with different positioning. Different angles give different visuals. The most comfortable for me is laying side-by-side, gives me the ability to kiss him if I want to. However, he really likes if I'm laying at the opposite end of the bed, so he can see more of what's going on--or even if I stand in front of him (for the same reason).
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Old 11-21-2010, 04:13 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Yeah, I call bullshit on the "she's only masturbated twice" as much as the "my guy doesn't look at porn" thing.

Unless TFP really is home to the all the sexual .01%ers out there, these types of lines are a crock of crap.
yea, I don't neccessarily believe she's only done it twice. But who knows?

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God, I love to watch my wife masturbate. I certainly have to get her in the right mood, however.

Here's a method I used early on in our relationship. I had her lay her hand on top of mine, and had her move my fingers to masturbate herself. That way, I could also learn what kind of pressure she prefers at different times through the session. I would otherwise have had no idea she wanted that much pressure at the end.
This sounds like a fun idea. I'm out of town again until thanksgiving, but when we get the chance I'll definately try this approach.
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Old 11-21-2010, 04:41 PM   #18 (permalink)
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We do this a lot also. It's one of my favorite things actually. We like to lay side by side but also you can try her laying down and you kneeling between her legs. Apparently that is a great view with plenty of access.

Have fun!
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Old 06-20-2011, 08:03 PM   #19 (permalink)
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We do this a lot. Toys have been a great addition to our relationship. Mutual masturbation allows us have marathon sessions while watching sexy dvd's. One to two hours or longer isn't unusual. The only problem is finding that much time...often enough!
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Old 07-01-2011, 09:50 AM   #20 (permalink)
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We normally do mutual facing each other.

Make sure you got a bottle of lube in the mix... always fun!

A kink for her is both of you masturbating, but she is wearing a blindfold... then at some point when she's getting close you can take over and make her explode :-)
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Old 07-01-2011, 07:58 PM   #21 (permalink)
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I suppose I'll need to find someone to do it with.
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:12 PM   #22 (permalink)
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You can experiment with different positioning. Different angles give different visuals. The most comfortable for me is laying side-by-side, gives me the ability to kiss him if I want to. However, he really likes if I'm laying at the opposite end of the bed, so he can see more of what's going on--or even if I stand in front of him (for the same reason).
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Old 07-03-2011, 09:47 PM   #23 (permalink)
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i got my wife in to alot of things like that it first started out when i cough her playing with her self over a pic of me and she was shy about it then we talked and i started to do it in front of her and it kicked off from there so you really just gotta go for it and talk to who ever it is your with and if it works sweet if it dont then you know it was a wast of time
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