sex killed my career - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

ismark · 10-03-2003, 02:55 PM

I thought about putting this in the living forum by decided that this was the best place.

Its a story thats been brewing in me for ages that I just have to share.

In the mid 90's I was relocated by my company to do a special job... things went well until I was allocated a staff member to work for me who was a real pill.

She was lazy, very opinionated and always seemed to be going to my boss to complain about things.

Anyways I was persuaded to promote her by my boss against my best instincts.

He then got transferred to Europe and all of a sudden she started to get requests to run training sessions in Europe, I thought little of it. (Can you see where this is heading)

Performance rating time came around and I rated her honestly as being competant at her job but no star.

My own promotion turn came around and to my surprise I was passed over.... things went backwards fast for a while and it has only been in the last couple of years that things seem to have recovered, they have both left the organisation.

I felt so stupid when I found out last year that my boss and the girl had been having a long standing affair which eventually led to his marriage breakdown, how could I have missed that? Had I known I would probably have refused to work with her.

Anyway thats my story... has anyone else experienced a similar circumstance, what did you do about it?

numist_net · 10-03-2003, 03:55 PM

wow, I'm sorry, man. I haven't got any experience with it, but I think that given the circumstances you did the right thing. Maybe now you will make the promotion and return to climbing the ladder.

sexymama · 10-03-2003, 04:34 PM

I once worked for a principal who was having an affair with the superintendent. She was a real witch -- full of herself! Boy did the two of them feel stupid when they were caught due to hitting a child who came out from behind a school bus. She was giving him head and they were distracted!

Thankfully I worked for a different district the following year and she was unable to ruin my career -- tho she tried.

Tuffy_McGee · 10-03-2003, 10:14 PM

My boss has this thing for one of my co-workers. She always fucks with me and she's gone totally psycho on me screaming "You're not a man at all. You've never been abused!!"
and stuff like that. I don't know if they're sleeping together but she's leading him around big time.
It really sucks.

10-03-2003, 02:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
ismark Crazy Location: Sydney	sex killed my career I thought about putting this in the living forum by decided that this was the best place. Its a story thats been brewing in me for ages that I just have to share. In the mid 90's I was relocated by my company to do a special job... things went well until I was allocated a staff member to work for me who was a real pill. She was lazy, very opinionated and always seemed to be going to my boss to complain about things. Anyways I was persuaded to promote her by my boss against my best instincts. He then got transferred to Europe and all of a sudden she started to get requests to run training sessions in Europe, I thought little of it. (Can you see where this is heading) Performance rating time came around and I rated her honestly as being competant at her job but no star. My own promotion turn came around and to my surprise I was passed over.... things went backwards fast for a while and it has only been in the last couple of years that things seem to have recovered, they have both left the organisation. I felt so stupid when I found out last year that my boss and the girl had been having a long standing affair which eventually led to his marriage breakdown, how could I have missed that? Had I known I would probably have refused to work with her. Anyway thats my story... has anyone else experienced a similar circumstance, what did you do about it? __________________ The Grumpy Old Bloke

10-03-2003, 04:34 PM	#3 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	I once worked for a principal who was having an affair with the superintendent. She was a real witch -- full of herself! Boy did the two of them feel stupid when they were caught due to hitting a child who came out from behind a school bus. She was giving him head and they were distracted! Thankfully I worked for a different district the following year and she was unable to ruin my career -- tho she tried. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

10-03-2003, 03:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
numist_net Banned Location: UCSD	wow, I'm sorry, man. I haven't got any experience with it, but I think that given the circumstances you did the right thing. Maybe now you will make the promotion and return to climbing the ladder.

10-03-2003, 10:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
Tuffy_McGee Crazy	My boss has this thing for one of my co-workers. She always fucks with me and she's gone totally psycho on me screaming "You're not a man at all. You've never been abused!!" and stuff like that. I don't know if they're sleeping together but she's leading him around big time. It really sucks.