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The B Man · 10-15-2003, 09:12 AM

So I finally found this amazing girl, and I like her a whole lot, we are such a compliment to each other...but there is one slight problem.

Recently we have just started fooling around(me fingering her), and there is a hitch. Once she orgasms....that's it. She just stops and wants to hold me. It is like she is male almost. I spent 6 hours in her room last night, and after the one, she refused everythign else sexually. I asked her about it and she just says she has never tried for more than one before. She really seemed to enjoy it though, so its not like I am absolutely terrible....

What's wrong here?

lurkette · 10-15-2003, 09:19 AM

Nothing's wrong. Every woman is different and not all women are multi-orgasmic. Some women get a refractory period the same way many men do. I know for me at least after I've had a really big orgasm I can get VERY uncomfortable physically if we keep having sex. It does't happen all the time - depends on a number of things like health and time of the month and things like that - but when it does happen, it's an "OK, I'm done now could you please please hurry it up?" kind of thing.

She seems open-minded enough, see if she'd like to keep going once and figure out if it's a physical thing, or if she's just lacking an experience that would have her keep going.

Redlemon · 10-15-2003, 09:41 AM

With my wife, after one clitoral-stimulation orgasm, the clit is off-limits for a few hours due to sensitivity. Penetration remains OK, however. And body-caresses are always welcome.

rodgerd · 10-15-2003, 10:55 AM

That's perfectly normal for some women. Some women are multi-orgasmic and some aren't. Don't sweat it, unless you aren't getting a chance to have yours, and don't bug her about it. Sex is about fun, not a competition to see how many times she can come, after all.

Slims · 10-16-2003, 08:06 AM

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shannon · 10-16-2003, 10:09 AM

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Originally posted by The B Man
It is like she is male almost.

I love that you actually said that. I'm guessing what's "wrong" is that you have a picture of what a girl does and she doesn't fit into it. I think it's cool that she's challenging that.

skysooner · 10-16-2003, 10:19 AM

My wife is like that almost. Once she orgasms, she goes through a pretty long period of being very sensitive down there. She also typically orgasms through clitoral stimulation rather than intercourse. We usually switch it off. Sometimes we do intercourse before we get her off and then I finish her afterwards. Sometimes we get her off first and then we do foreplay for 5 to 10 minutes more and then we have intercourse to completion.

10-15-2003, 09:12 AM	#1 (permalink)
The B Man Upright	One and shes done So I finally found this amazing girl, and I like her a whole lot, we are such a compliment to each other...but there is one slight problem. Recently we have just started fooling around(me fingering her), and there is a hitch. Once she orgasms....that's it. She just stops and wants to hold me. It is like she is male almost. I spent 6 hours in her room last night, and after the one, she refused everythign else sexually. I asked her about it and she just says she has never tried for more than one before. She really seemed to enjoy it though, so its not like I am absolutely terrible.... What's wrong here?

10-15-2003, 09:19 AM	#2 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Nothing's wrong. Every woman is different and not all women are multi-orgasmic. Some women get a refractory period the same way many men do. I know for me at least after I've had a really big orgasm I can get VERY uncomfortable physically if we keep having sex. It does't happen all the time - depends on a number of things like health and time of the month and things like that - but when it does happen, it's an "OK, I'm done now could you please please hurry it up?" kind of thing. She seems open-minded enough, see if she'd like to keep going once and figure out if it's a physical thing, or if she's just lacking an experience that would have her keep going. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

10-15-2003, 09:41 AM	#3 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	With my wife, after one clitoral-stimulation orgasm, the clit is off-limits for a few hours due to sensitivity. Penetration remains OK, however. And body-caresses are always welcome. __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

10-16-2003, 08:06 AM	#5 (permalink)
Slims Eccentric insomniac Location: North Carolina	edited __________________ "Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery." - Winston Churchill "All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible." Seven Pillars of Wisdom, T.E. Lawrence Last edited by Slims; 12-20-2010 at 07:13 PM..

10-15-2003, 10:55 AM	#4 (permalink)
rodgerd Psycho Location: Wellington, New Zealand	That's perfectly normal for some women. Some women are multi-orgasmic and some aren't. Don't sweat it, unless you aren't getting a chance to have yours, and don't bug her about it. Sex is about fun, not a competition to see how many times she can come, after all.

10-16-2003, 10:19 AM	#7 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	My wife is like that almost. Once she orgasms, she goes through a pretty long period of being very sensitive down there. She also typically orgasms through clitoral stimulation rather than intercourse. We usually switch it off. Sometimes we do intercourse before we get her off and then I finish her afterwards. Sometimes we get her off first and then we do foreplay for 5 to 10 minutes more and then we have intercourse to completion.